HELP he contacted me after a year

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
HELP he contacted me after a year
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Tue, 04-27-2010 - 7:20pm


I'm here again after a year of no contact....
I was just telling my friend how i have finally come out of the depression and am ready to tackly life when on saturday, my birthday, i got an email from him. After one year and me telling his wife everything he is contacting me...really????

Yes, i did a stupid thing and i responded which lead to 2 days of emailing which ran into Monday morning. He was sending me emails to see how i was doing.

On Monday I contacted my GF and she came over to talk it out and he IM'ed me....I told him on the email/im/facebook that this was not a good idea and we could never be friends. He went peacefully and i haven't talked to him at all today. He added to his facebood then removed me as his friend.

I told him he was a jerk and that i had many mixed feelings toward him....He told me he still didn't know what he wanted....which angered me and i told him that...which lead to a fight.

i feel like hell - it was only 2 days but the panic and the aniexty set in so quickly and tonight i feel the withdrawal....
I knew I had to reach out to my ivillage family for help.....

Help me to understand this is the right thing to do....Of course he wanted to meet to talk...I said no.
I want to stay strong....

Any kind words of wisdom for MIa? Please?

Mia
Mia
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:10pm

Hi Mia,


I would normally go back and read your story but I’m pressed for time at the moment however, I wanted to answer because the board usually gets slow around this time.


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It seems like he knows exactly what he wants and is very cognizant of what he is doing.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2010
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 10:47pm

Mia -


This message board gets so much activity that even recent posts quickly get burried.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 11:01pm

Hi Mia,


I think, I sorta...remember you.

NC since Dec. 9th 2009

No Contact = No N

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 7:16am
Hi Mia. I remember you and I would not give him the time of day after what he treated you. He was a real piece of work. My advice is what the other ladies are saying, block and forget:).
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 4:28pm

Thanks Last week!

I told him we could not be friends and i haven't heard from him since....i think he will go quietly. I know what i want and he is not it so i think i'm safe....it was just alot to suddenly be back where i was a year ago in a matter of minutes....by this i mean with the email and texting. It made me sick to my stomach.

Mia
Mia
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 4:32pm

Hi Empowerment,

Thanks for the words of wisdom...
you are right, i am not going to stroke his ego....that is his wife's job! I will no longer be his or anyones side dish!

Took me a day or two to snap out of it but i'm okay and proud i was able to handle his fishing.....

Thanks again for commenting and i stole your parrot comment and posted it to my facebook wall...love it!

Mia
Mia
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2009
Sun, 05-02-2010 - 4:34pm

Thanks Magenta,
I have to say i am very proud of myself to telling him we would never be friends and that i have moved on and he should as well. I think he wanted to get my reation and once he heard me tell him NO he went away quickly....
THanks for you kind words...it helped me during the after math! :)
Mia
Mia