Help for LostAgain & others, myself inc.

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Help for LostAgain & others, myself inc.
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Wed, 01-13-2010 - 4:31pm

I'm trying to pull myself up and am reading lots of self help articles from various websites and this is one that has so much practical advice that I thought it might also be helpful for others and inparticular for Lost who is asking so many questions why.

Lost sweetie, please start asking yourself the whys about you and don't even consider xAP & W in your life. It doesn't matter what they think or do, you have your own life and you need to start living it independently and apart from them and their drama. For your own peace and sanity, go NC with them as soon as possible. Also, please check out this website for some really good articles on why we choose the relationships we do and how this affects our lives.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/
courtesy of Trixie (I think it was)
former OW and veteran.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 4:37pm

Great website! Thanks for posting it!


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 5:05pm

That is a fantastic website. I read that often during my ending.


And lost, I had another thought for you - don't be a doormat for these people. Don't be their entertainment. Lose those losers, you don't need them.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 01-13-2010 - 6:24pm

Thank you guys!!! I'm checking out the site right now.


There are two articles at the bottom of that page, titled:


  • He’s with someone else – Why her and not me?
  • Women Who Talk (& Think) Too Much – Wasting time explaining & discussing with men that don’t want to listen

  • Just the articles I need to read now. ;)


    The problem for me is... letting go.

    NC since Dec. 9th 2009

    No Contact = No N