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| Fri, 10-15-2004 - 10:03am |
For those of you who have had affairs I need your help. My H is currently having a very strong emotional affair with another woman. It seems from what I have read that he is the one feeling this way and she although cares about him as a friend has someone in her life and does not want to upset that. They still see eachother though and she is keeping him at bay but he is continuing to persue and tells her he would give up everything for her if she would have him. (Boy does that hurt). We have had the most incredible 14 yrs together and this has truely come out of nowhere. Something is going on for him and we have started counseling and I hope this will come out and we can work on it.
My question is.. you have all been in his shoes -under the influence of the fantasy feelings the attention those emotional highs.. When you were feeling that way and if you were feeling like you would give it all up to be with that person, Was there anything that your spouse could have done or said to break that spell and help you realize what you would be losing? I am feeling pretty desperate here as I know he is not thinking clearly. Please help me
My question is.. you have all been in his shoes -under the influence of the fantasy feelings the attention those emotional highs.. When you were feeling that way and if you were feeling like you would give it all up to be with that person, Was there anything that your spouse could have done or said to break that spell and help you realize what you would be losing? I am feeling pretty desperate here as I know he is not thinking clearly. Please help me

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All I can tell you is it took me a good 7-8 months of no contact before I felt like I was really over him. But as to when it would have been a good time to talk about it -- I can't even begin to guess.
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