Help me understand (update)
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Help me understand (update)
| Tue, 10-19-2004 - 12:44pm |
OK my H has finally come out of the haze and acknowledged he is feeling confused says he loves me but confused about what he is feeling. (I did not dig but I took it to mean about is EA). Says I am a wonderful wife and does not know why he is feeling so confused. I take this as a good sign that he is now able to see "me" again and acknowledge I am feeling in this too. For those of you who have been through this process.. again help me through this. Is this part of the process denial then confusion or acknowledgement and then what next.. I hope in the end of all this he realizes that he wants to be with me and he understands what is driving him to feel the way he is feeling now..

Iv, I empathize with you being in this difficult position but I don't understand why you don't confront the issues head on and deal with them out loud instead of assuming and wondering and hoping what he is thinking?????
This is the impression that I get from your post and the prior one that I responded to.
"Hoping that others went through this and realized they wanted to be with their spouse in the end >> That would be my happy ending."
I sincerely hope that this is how it ends up for you.
I hope you find this happy ending. I know many have been here and found that they were able to make this happen. I have often wished that for myself, but all reltationships are different. My marriage is on the downswing, for me it is an issue of coming to terms with my "failure" and letting it go. But from what I have read on this board I have seen many people move on from this board having re-built their marriages, to where they were stronger than ever!! I am hoping that you will fall into this category!!
Karry
Karry - - who is learning to embrace life on her own raising her miracle, Carley Paige