Help with MM's newest arrival

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Help with MM's newest arrival
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:16pm
ya all... things aren't getting better - I feel like I'm carrying on emotionally and he couldn't care less... he's got a new baby in the house (3rd kid) and doesn't have time or emotional room for me right now! And sure ALL signs point to... MOVE ON - he is! But... it's just so weird and I can't seem to stop caring or move past this point... I feel like I DESERVE him to care atleast enough to communicate with me... if he EVER cared about me at all!?!?!? And sure my FEELING like I deserve it - isn't going to make it so... but... I'm at a complete loss ya all... and I can't seem to move past this point without SOME closure!?!?!? :(
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Registered: 12-12-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:21pm

BIG HUGS!!!!!!

I don't do well unless I say what I need to say so I do, but now I do it because of me. I don't do it in hopes he will say what I need to hear or for him to apologize for hurting me. Motivation for your closure is the key. His words aren't going to give you closure. You have to do it for yourself. Be patient with yourself.

SS

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Registered: 02-03-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 12:23pm

Ima:

Although I understand your rationale and feelings for closure, sometimes we just don't plain don't get it no matter how much we'd like it. It sucks, it isn't fair, but it is the way it is sometimes. The best thing we can do is just accept it. Once you get past that, you'll be ok.