Help....where do I start ??

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Help....where do I start ??
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Thu, 09-17-2009 - 11:03am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 11:46am
Welcome to EAS and this time, I hope that you stay. :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 11:55am

Brighter:


Thanks for sharing with me; I just have been beside myself since Friday. He was actually very persistent and CALLED me Wednesday after I didn't answer his texts; Thursday he

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-30-2006
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 11:57am

HP,


I would start by reading the Healing Library.

Messenger

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 12:10pm

Messenger:


Usually it begins by a brief location he is x and then I answer and we text back and forth just general chit chat; and then its "doors open" and I have been slowly fading and then it will be "too bad for you" and then a couple days/weeks go by and then "doors open" and then I go. Last week; it was everyday; and I didn't go until Friday; Saturday I cried in the Shower and thought this has got to stop; I need help; I can't go on like this forever.


My marriage isn't

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 12:12pm
He continues because he can.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 12:23pm
I don't mean to be too personal, but you said you and your DH
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 12:30pm

Brighter:


So I do nothing with AP I just don't respond ?


He will text, then he will start calling. I feel the need to tell him its THE END. I know I don't need to tell him; but I feel I need to.


I don't know if I can do this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 1:03pm

That is exactly what you should do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 1:19pm

Hi hot-


I responded to you on the MAS bbs also.


Well, most certainly due to the nature of your relationship dynamics there is no real need for you to tell him its over....but if you see no other way....I say do what you think you must and be done with it. Also, if this guy does not respect your wishes and continues to call/text you, I would suggest you change your phone number. He will surely get the message then. Right now, he knows if he is persistent enough...you'll cave. He'll get his needs met and yours appear to be a non-issue. That doesn't sound too great now does it? Remember that next time you hear from him...


Happy


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2009
Thu, 09-17-2009 - 2:07pm

Ripping the bandaid off sounds easier than it really is.


You are so right; I have to concentrate on silence. I know, it is golden.


I hope I make it to the other side.

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