Here's a good one.

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Here's a good one.
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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 2:35pm
Okay ladies...I have a question.

What could YOU do starting tomorrow that would be different from what you are doing today that will help you to keep your mind off of the MM/OM? What habits would you TRULY like to break that relate to him that you know you could change to help yourself to heal?

Hugs,

GT

IT'S WHEN WE DEMAND THINGS FROM OURSELVES AND TAKE THE APPROPRIATE ACTION THAT WE TRULY SEE CHANGE.

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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 4:46pm
I'm constantly checking e-mail now. Even though I told him I don't want to hear from him unless he is divorced, I still check e-mail constantly -- at least 5 or 6 times EVERY HOUR. That is something I really need to work on because it keeps me stuck to him.

I would like to cut down this obssessive mail checking down from 20-30 times to just two or three times a day. Can I do it?

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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 5:05pm
IAD ~ you just like the rest of us can do anything you put your mind to. Now that you've determined what it is you want to do, all you need to do is put the action in place. What is it that our famous gym shoe company always says????? Just do it!

Hugs to you. You have one up on most in that you KNOW IT GETS EASIER!

Keep smiling.

GT

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Wed, 05-07-2003 - 9:51pm
Well I used to do that obsessive email / voice mail checking stuff - thank god I stopped doing that - I was driving myself crazy after a while. I still however look for his car when I am out and about around town - just to see if I see him I guess. Haven't seen hind nor hair of him in two months and we live in the same town - seen his wife a few times though. I guess I should stop looking. Can't help it though - about 1 out of every 7 people drive the same vehicle he has so I keep looking.

o-well - old habots die hard - hopefully that one will soon too.

Lyssa