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| Mon, 06-06-2005 - 8:55am |
Oh get this one, girls (and Max). If you've seen my recents posts you know this jerk contacted me a few weeks ago about the mess he's made in his life. His new OW found out he was still married and went to his house and confronted the BS. XMM contacted me because "I have a good head on my shoulders."
So this morning I found on my phone a text message from him asking me not to contact him anymore. WTF?!?!?!!?!?!?!?! He contacted me, unloaded all his ridiculous and juvenile drama, and now wants me to stop contacting him???? I don't get it, unless it was his way of saying that if he gets completely stupid and tries to drag me into the fray again to ignore him and not respond. I wasn't the one who contacted him to begin with.
I couldn't resist responding with "not only will I not contact you, I'll ignore you when you contact me." WTF?!?!?!?!? Maybe this is the closure I never got when we broke up a year and a half ago, because if he hasn't shown himself to be a complete a##hole in the past few weeks, he never will.
Thanks for listening. Love, Mo.


Mo, my guess is that this is his last ditch strategy to provoke you. You both know the truth that you've not been contacting him... but he's wanting some control and hoping it will 'get' you that he's saying "no more contact."
Just my guess, WIP
And now in a very strange turn of events, he contacted me this morning and tried to tell me that someone else sent that message from his phone, that he would never say such a thing to me.
Why is he getting stupider and stupider????? At this point, it has some entertainment value, but I'm finally ready to conceed that as soon as the freakin' construction on my house is completed, I'm getting a new phone. I can't take his intrusions into my life anymore. I'm not going to let him make me crazy, which is apparently his goal.
Thanks for your response, WIP. Love, Mo.
*sigh* unfortunately I know that technique! :(
Your page back to him made me laugh though! :p But I know all too well how trying to rile the AP can back fire (from THIS point of view - not speaking to you! ;) )
Stay strong sista! :p
Dear Mo,
It sounds like he is playing mind games with you. Major mind games. I don't know about his explanation that someone else sent that message. Do you believe him? A part of me wants to think he is trying desperate measures to suck you back into a relationship. But, you know him better than me. Did you guys play those kind of games (or rather did he play those kind of games) during your affair?
Be careful. I'm worried that he is trying these tactics (asking your advice, etc.) to regain YOU back into his life.
Birdie
Let's assume for a moment that he is telling the truth. That his new OW or his W sent the message. (It happened to my sister: dating new guy, he left his email open and "someone" emailed her his whole story, short relationship) I think it is pretty funny. No more OW taking care of him like you did, now he has the OW from h**L. She is going to run him. Between her and the wife he is in for some fun times ahead. No wonder he called you with his problems. I bet he is really going to be missing you. What goes around, comes around. Fact of life we reap what we sow. Keep sowing some good stuff for yourself!
I thought when i read your first post that someone else..either the new OW or his wife..wrote the text message.
I buy either one of those scenarios..most likely if there is an OW..she sounds wacked and is doing that.
p.s. and it makes being out of this relationship even easier for you...if indeed this is what he has going on in his life..it will make you feel even more less attracted to the whole "scene"....just remember..paybacks can be gotten without ever having to do anything
...i pray that my xMM (now separated from his wife and living with OW he dumped me for)...i pray that he has chosen a Jerry Springer-esque life..ive seen inklings of it..and said so to him....but i do hope karma does my dirty work for me.
like what is happening FOR you right now...(think of it that way...not TO you...but FOR you...he is having a bad time..boo hoo)...just goes to show you are a class act...let him weep but also remember....you are never going back to him and back to that affair...but its slightly satisfying to know that someone might regret having done what they did because of who you are. Kinda hypocritical of me to say since it was wrong to be in that to begin with but we have to find the solace where we can but just dont make FURTHER mistakes.
xoxo,
Lizzie
Mo,
Can't you change your phone number or somehow block his messages? I mean is this the kind of drama you want to have in your life on a frequent basis?
I most certainly don't want this drama in my life on ANY basis. My blood is boiling, I'm angry, disgusted, have a headache, etc. The sheer thrill of not having him in my life anymore has not quite sunk in, since at this moment he is very much part of my life, he and his girlfriend and his wife...
I'm not living in my house temporarily while I have some construction done. The only link I have to the world is my cellphone because I don't have a home phone right now. There's no way I can contact everyone who might need to reach me with a new number and still feel confident I'm not going to miss important calls.
I now I probably deserved this just by having some communication with him a few weeks ago about the mess he's made of his life. To the extent that I fell for his story and thought I could help him as a friend, I guess this is living proof that no good deed goes unpunished. I'm SO DONE with him now.
Love, Mo.
n/t
Edited 6/7/2005 9:15 pm ET ET by sundrian