He's Stalking me!

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Registered: 11-22-2009
He's Stalking me!
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Tue, 12-29-2009 - 11:19pm

I will admit that I did not change my phone number Saturday. I have been working all weekend and just didn't put it a priority on my list. I have NOT talked to them both in over a week. I HAVE deleted his text message, and thrown out his 'used gifts'.

Well, this past weekend I have been getting 'blocked' calls after midnight Friday, Saturday, Sunday and Monday night. Then last night I got blocked calls, and then this morning in the afternoon. I answered maybe once or twice to these calls, and he doesn't say anything! He doesn't talk...I keep saying, "Hello? Hello? Whose this?" but its dead silence on the other end.

Then this morning when he calls, he left a weird wrapping sound on my voice message.

NOW tonight, he calls me at work twice. The second time I answered, he finally spoke saying, "Hey its me". I am so proud of myself, I just said, "I don't want you to call my anymore." He said, "Ok". Then I hung up on him!

OMG I am shaking. I am so proud of myself! But I feel like crying too. I wish I didn't hear from him or his voice. Arghhhh!!!! What an ASSH*LE! What did he think he'd 'accomplish' by calling me??? That muthaf*cker!!! No respect whatsoever for me or his wife. After all that has happened...he still has the NERVE to call me! the NERVE to call me after I just met, and spoke with his wife...and after all the lies he told me...he has the NERVE to call me and say, "Hey, its me". Like WTF??? YOU A&&!!!!!

Just fishing around to see if 'he's still got it' because his poor ego thinks now that his wife taken him back, he can still have his 'side dish' me. Haha he wasn't expecting me to say that and to hang up on him! HAHA I NEVER EVER done this to him.

Edited to add: What baffles me is that his wife said that before when he had affairs, he would drop the OW in a heart beat and never talk to her again. He never kept an affair going for as long as he has with me. And when his wife would find out, he'd leave the OW. She doesn't quite understand why he keeps contacting me even though we had 3 (or more I can't keep track) D-Days.

And now, AFTER ALL THIS TIME (3 WEEKS), he has the NERVE to call me?? His wife told him that her and I are talking (were talking, not sure if she mentioned that I broke communication with her), doesn't this man THINK??

IRONY FOR YOU: He told his wife that I am the "stalking b*tch" but if she only knew that its him doing the stalking.




Edited 12/29/2009 11:26 pm ET by llostagain

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 12-29-2009 - 11:52pm

OMG...after this post, he's calling me again at work! I didn't answer...but I can't keep not answering. I'm at WORK. People will wonder why I'm not doing my job (which is answering phones).

WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM?

This is hurting me but I need my strength.

I think if he calls again, I'll tell him if he doesn't stop harassing me I will get a restraining order on him.
This is killing me...why can't he just let it go?! Im afraid now he's going to be waiting by my car when I get off work (he's done it in the past, he lives by my work, its very possible and I don't doubt it).

Now I think he might be upset with me. I just don't want to hear anything he has to say. Its dead and gone.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 12:12am

hang in there lost....do not answer, or try you best not to. U have come so far, and done so well, your reaction to him on the phone was GREAT!!! SOOOOOOOOO proud of you. You did the right thing. Do not fret, just let it go, try...try try try to focus at work, change your number ASAP. Do not out it off further. U have come so far. DO NOT talk to him, they have a way of luring us back....do not do it, please change the number NOW if you can, and as far as work goes, do the best you can.

and i hope he is not at car after work.....have someone walk you to your car to avoid any confrontation, do you have security at your office...a friend that can walk you....get in your car and go home. U said it yourself. he will eventually give up and/or run out of ways to reach you.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 12:16am
Just a note, i got a blocked call today too...on a new home phone, number is public, they just listened as i said hello and then hung up on me. I do not know if it was him or not. I was rattled for a minute. I probably like to think it is him, but then i decided, it does not matter, it simply does not matter.
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 1:47am

Thanks Sienna for being here for me.

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