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Hey Bear2092
| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 2:30pm |
I didn't know you were a guy! Cool! We love to have guys input on this board. I posted another message to you below. I do know that OM really loved me a few years ago. I am just wondering now if I have waited too late to be with him and if he has moved on from me forever. I guess I will know in time.
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| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 2:40pm |
Hey Bear, What will I accomplish by giving him the cold shoulder?
| Thu, 10-21-2004 - 3:11pm |
Your posts did make me think of some things. Right after I moved out and filed for divorce, I was really down and not my usual loud, friendly self. I became withdrawn for awhile. I didn't talk to OM and I didn't speak to him when I saw him at work. He came around me more and tried to cheer me up and get me to talk to him. Once I started to come out of the depression and started becoming more like my olf self, I started to speak to him more. I have noticed lately that he has started pulling away again. He is not coming around me near as much as he did there for awhile when I was really down. Does this trigger any thoughts since you are a man?
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 10:03am |
I'm not sure if I have answered your questions based on the order I read your posts. My thought is that this fellow knows you are waiting in the wings so he may be taking you for granted. Perhaps he is just being nice/kind because of your prior relationship. One way to flush out his true feelings for you is to confront him or to play hard to get or give him the cold shoulder. One way or another it would allow you to move on. If he sees you are moving on without him he may realize his opportunity to be with you is slipping away and pursue you. If he doesn't make a move then most likely he is not as interested as you think. I have experience with this. The other thing I would say is I have been given advice to take atleast 6 months after my divorce before I get involved again. I doubt I will take that advice but maybe you could.
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 10:56am |
Hey Bear, thanks a lot. I will try this. I hope it works. I do love him and I know that he is the one that I want to be with. Should I even speak to him when I see him?
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 11:30am |
I am reluctant to tell you how to go about it. IF you feel that strongly I would get him away from the office atmosphere and tell him and see what his reaction is. I am not sure if you have to talk to him because of your job or not. IF it was me I wouldn't go looking for conversation with him and when he talks to you try not to let him see that heart on your sleeve. Play it cool.
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 11:46am |
Bear, please give me all the advice that you would like to. Don't be hesitant. Help me out as much as you would like to. I definitely need a mans point of view to guide me. I really don't want to talk to him just yet. I would rather wait until my divorce is final. I would rather watch and see how he acts. Thanks!
| Fri, 10-22-2004 - 12:05pm |
I meant to tell you that we do have to talk occasionally at work for business, but not a lot. I can avoid conversations with him as much as possible. I am like you, I don't want to talk to him about this right now. I would rather watch and see how he acts.
