Hey Lily!!

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Hey Lily!!
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Fri, 09-24-2004 - 1:33am
Hey Lily!

How is it going? I was thinking about your last post and wondering how you are doing!

I also noticed all of the replies you have gotten - you are so supportive and active here that when you post a challange you get lots of support back!

Don't be hard on yourself - this is a lot harder than it looks from the outside I'm sure!

Just wanted to pass on some positive thoughts your way and wish you a good day and weekend!

My mother-in-law from HELL is coming today so it will be hard to check in here.

She has stood and read over my shoulder before - but that is a WHOLE different problem in itself!

I will escape and check in with my friends here when I can!

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

-lazy
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Registered: 06-28-2004
In reply to: lazyone2004
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 9:38am
Hey Lazy!

You just made my day! :) Thank you for that extra boost!

I am feeling much stronger. I guess those waves of withdrawal really do pass, and Free pointed out something really important- it's not necessarity HIM I'm withdrawing from, it's the way he made me feel about myself that got me high and that I miss. Working with a good psychologist is helping me feel better about myself and my H, so hopefully I won't crave that high from some guy who doesn't love me or give me a tenth of the respect my husband gives me!

Thanks so much for checking on me. You and the others on this board have given me the support and strength I need to get past this chapter and live my life!

((((LAZY)))))

How are you doing? Any MM sightings or contact?

Love,

Lily
Love, Lily PG with #1 EDD 11/23 baby
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Registered: 01-26-2004
In reply to: lazyone2004
Sat, 09-25-2004 - 4:36am
Oh Lily - I don't know how I'm doing! Saw xOM yesterday while picking up my daughter. We were all collecting our kids from a week long school trip. I keep seeing the long direct eye-contact he gave me. I'm still hesitant to just totally cut off all friendship. Right now my mother-in-law is here and that is VERY stressful on all of us.

I honestly think she is a little crazy - literally - and I am finding myself wanting to escape by thinking about xOM and thinking of how shocked she would be if she knew we were even friends. It is getting more and more clear that xOM has been an escape from reality for me - and tension and stress reliever. Of course he ended up causing MORE stress!

I totally relate to what your phsychologist said about getting over how he made you feel about yourself rather than getting over HIM.

My husband and I are doing really well lately - so that is good!

I miss being able to check here as often as I could before. My mother-in-law hovers ALL of the time!

You sound great Lily!

-lazy