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| Sun, 05-01-2005 - 7:09pm |
It's hard to imagine that one year ago I was posting away here and on the MAS board about my trials and tribulations with X-OM.
Well, in June of last year, I ended the A once and for all. What followed were several months of NC, peppered by emails and voice mail messages by OM. Fast forward to the fall, saw OM at several social gatherings, awkward, but I made it through! Received several emails/calls from OM in fall, which I dodged. One email I did return, he sent me a sympathy card for a death in my family which he heard about. I thanked him for the card and the kind thoughts, but kept it very generic and very brief.
Talked to OM in December. He called my house phone and H was not home so we did talk for a bit. He said he missed me, wanted to "get together" etc. I told him it wasn't a good idea, and that although I valued our friendship, it just wouldn't work for me now.
OM started gossiping about me at his school(we are both teachers in the same district). Made implications that I was having an A with another teacher he works with (who, by the way, is GAY, and nobody knows, but has been a close friend of mine for years). He refers to me as Mrs. Gay-friend's-last-name to his buddies, and I was told this by one of them.
When he sees me now, he makes a point to avoid me. I even said hello at a district in-service day once because we were in the same workshop, he barely said hello.
Anyway...the reason I am here is to let you know that I MADE IT and I am doing WONDERFULLY! I wouldn't have believed that I would/could get through the ending of the A last year at this time. The pain seemed too much for me to bear. But I did, and I am a better person for it.
For all of you who happen to read this who are trying to end an A, YOU CAN DO IT!!! Keep posting here, keep yourself busy, and make it a point to tell yourself each and every day how special you are, and how you deserve so much more. I look forward to reading some posts and providing support from someone who has made it to the "other side".
Stay strong!
:)
Circe

HI Circe
Long time no post, your sounding great, XMM sounds as childish and vindictive as ever.
Hope things with you and hubby are going good and that your getting the love and attention we all need.
Be well
Free
Hey Free! :) Glad to hear from ya!
Yes, X-OM is absolutely as childish and vindictive as ever! It took me so long to see that he was like that all along, and this behavior had been going on all through the A.
Now I just laugh at how pathetic he is, and how glad I am to be done with the whole thing. I won't say that I regret the A, because I have learned a LOT from it, but I will say that I am glad that it is over, and that I have moved on to a better place. When I do have to see X-OM, I am stronger now, I can hold my head high and be proud. And in some way, it empowers me when I do see him and I can still walk away smiling.
Anyway, thanks for posting. I hope all is well with you also.
:)
Circe