Hi: Full of love

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Registered: 10-02-2003
Hi: Full of love
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:19am
Thanks for all of your posts. I have been keeping up with your story to. How are things with your MM? Is he still back at home for the kids sake? Does he still say that he is leaving in a year? Are your still keeping your distance from him? Please give us an update. I would like to know how you are doing.
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Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 10-07-2004 - 10:10pm

Hi Southerngirl, thanks for asking.

Love
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Registered: 10-02-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 9:59am
Hi fulloflove. I am glad that your MM has come to some decisions and that he is doing something about changing his life for the better. Divorce is always sad, but sometimes it is necessary to get on with your life and be able to live in a healthy environment. My marriage was over years ago and I have to admit that my EMA was what finished it off. My EMA has been over for 4 years, but I never got over OM and I have lived in emotional turmoil all of that time. I wanted to do right and get my kids raised. I felt that obligation to them. I look back now and I don't really know if that was the right thing to do because I have been so emotionally messed up that I know that I haven't been a good wife or mother. I probably should have left when I knew the marriage was over, but what's done is done and I can't go backwards. I just want to get this divorce over with and let my husband get on with his life and find someone that can make him happy. I want my kids to heal and have a good life. I want ME to heal too. I don't know how things will end up with ex-OM and me. He knows that I am going through a divorce, but he doesn't want to be involved in it. I can understand that. We work together, so he knows the basics of what I am going through, but I don't talk to him about any details. Right now, we are keeping things strictly business between us. I guess time will tell if we have any hopes for a future. Thanks for your posts.