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| Sun, 09-12-2010 - 4:54pm |
Whoa. So yeah, I've just spent about 3 hours trying to catch up on this board and I feel like I haven't even made a dent. So, I wanted to say, "I give up." :) And I will just try to keep up with all of the new posts- and I mean no disrespect to any newbie I've missed welcoming in the process. Here's my blanket welcome:
Hi, welcome to EAS, you've come to the right place. This place saved my life and if you stop, listen, digest and reflect, it will save yours too.
Who am I and why do you care? Perhaps you don't and that is okay. I am Jane. I have been posting and reading here since January 28- the day I ended my A for good. It's been a long road filled with more ups and downs than I care to recall. I am M. My husband knows everything, and I mean everything, and I feel like we are finally, finally to a place where true rebuilding can take place. So, I just wanted to drop in to say hi to all of my friends and welcome to all the newbies. I will try to be better about posting here, but as I focus on rebuilding my M, that has become my first priority and I absolutely will not give up any time with my DH- he's studying today so I've had a chance to catch up. I am so glad to see so many of the vets continually posting here to help the newbies (E1, Iddy, TU, Luvin, Dee, Clarity- of course in no particular order)... with any luck, I will be able to do that well into the future too.
Hugs,
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Edited 9/12/2010 4:55 pm ET by secretlifeofjane28

Dear Jane,
Your posts today were such a welcome infusion into the on-going dialogues that we have been having. We have missed you, and your insightful and mindful responses.
I am smiling from ear to ear. I am so happy to hear that you're headed in the direction you are. I know how much strength and courage it has taken you to reach a point where you could trust your husband enough to be fully transparent. It is so very powerful to be able to stand in the totality of your own truth - to own it.
It is humbling. It is asking of another person to accept you and all your flaws. It is a leap of faith because there are no guarentees that they will catch you. You have to know that if they don't, you'll be able to stretch your feet down further and find the path beneath you. You are so strong. You will carve your own path forward. You and your husband together as a strong, united force.
And by accepting your truth, it doesn't mean instant forgiveness. It isn't the solution in and off itself - but it is the beginning. A true beginning wherein your needs aren't ignored or marginalized because you feel unworthy to even ask 'given what you have done/what he doesn't know - but you can ask for them to be met because to the extent to which you can, you are now 'showing up' to make this work. This is about meeting "your needs" - each persons individually, and as a unit.
You are not holding back now. I am so so proud of you.
Feels good to exhale, eh?
Much love,
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
Thanks TU. I couldn't have done it without you.
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Hi Jane (E1 waving arms in the air),
What a great idea!
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Hi Jane!
It's so good to see your moniker on the discussion list.