His Birthday

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Registered: 10-21-2009
His Birthday
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Sat, 03-20-2010 - 4:31pm

...is today. After 4 weeks of NC/LC and finally starting to feel slightly better, I am not going to acknowledge it in any way. I am sure, he is probably expecting it - after all, we didn't even have an official ending - and hearing from me will make him feel all good - but it's not my job to make him happy, he has a wife for that. What a blow to his fragile ego, I know.

Love and peace to all, you ladies have a great weekend.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 01-24-2010
In reply to: gonebabygone
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 4:58pm

FOUR WEEKS - way to go! I know those early weeks are the worst and now having a date that brings back thoughts of him - ugh. So...do something special just for you - make it YOUR day. Look ahead to next year when this day will just be March 20th.


Take care and keep smiling......


...clearly

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: gonebabygone
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 5:48pm

GBG,


Good for you, and besides, what's the point? Half the time I read on here that MM's dont' even remember them anyway. He's not family, or a close friend, so there is no need to remember. And you are right....it would just boost his ego and again,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: gonebabygone
Sat, 03-20-2010 - 8:43pm

Thank you ladies.
I've had a couple martini's to celebrate my life without x in it. And my husband bought me pearl earrings...for no special reason, just because I liked them. That's the kind of man he is...and I almost divorced him to be with that sick joke of JAM. Puke. WTF was I thinking.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 10-04-2009
In reply to: gonebabygone
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 4:34pm

GBG -


Obviously, I'm behind in my posts, but I just wanted to thank you for your post about xAP's birthday.

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: gonebabygone
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 6:54pm
What a timely post. My xap's bday is coming up and I've thought about it a lot lately. After reading this, I realize how silly I was rationalizing sending him a message. NC means NC and I am not going to give up over 7 weeks of it just to stroke his ego. Thanks ladies.
Jane
NC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: gonebabygone
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 7:48pm

Yes, I'd been thinking a lot about his upcoming birthday too, going back and forth if I should text/call or not - it seemed like slap in his face not to acknowledge it in any way, considering we work together - but then I remembered some of his latest stunts that he pulled and me crying all day long and being so devastated that I had to call in to work next day - I can't even tell you what he's done, because it is so embarrasing - although I'm sure many others would have similar stories to tell - he is just unworthy of me being nice to him. I gave him all my love, and he didn't care for it - so I took it all back.

You ladies stay strong, always remember why you ended it. Every time I feel weak, I remember sobbing on the floor that day I've decided to end it - never in my life I want to feel like that again, ever.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 03-17-2010
In reply to: gonebabygone
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 3:13am

exap's bday was

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Registered: 10-21-2009
In reply to: gonebabygone
Wed, 03-24-2010 - 12:29am

Pre or post Valentines Day, that made me laugh, I've got NOTHING. x was out of country by himself (or so he said), and didn't even bother to call, let alone to take me out or to get me a present. I dumped him right after that. I supposed to believe he was planning to leave his wife for me...when he can't even be bothered to call me on Valentines day? Yeah, right, like that was going to happen.

XOXO
Gone

**Bloodied but unbowed**