The hits just keep coming...

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Registered: 08-14-2003
The hits just keep coming...
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:04pm
ExMM has been sullen all day long. I assumed it was because I found out he went to an event last night with his W and kids (he'd been trying to keep it from me, for some reason). However, he just informed me that after they got home from the event, he told his W that he's sick of how she's so "emotionally void" and started packing a suitcase, threatening to stay the night in a hotel. I asked what happened next, but he had to leave for a meeting.

This is from a man who has told me he would probably *never* leave, mainly because of his children - which I respect. Now that we've broken off the A, he's decided his M is no good?! How do I just **know** this is going to throw a wrench into my determination to stay away from him?

 

ItalianPisces

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Wed, 03-10-2004 - 4:41pm
Oh Pisces,

Stay away. I think of the advice I give and I wonder why sometimes I can't put my own advice to good use. Don't let him fool you into thinking you're "it." He really has to prove it. None of this stringing along and toying with your feelings. I lived the past year and a half in a committed A totally believing we'd have our "someday" NOT!!! I just couldn't take it anymore. When I'd see beyond the blinders he'd give me a song and dance about how he really loved me and was waiting for things to work out for us. I just can't deal with that crap anymore. His most recent promise was the most elaborate and I think hindsight tells me that I knew then that I was done. Here's the creepy part. Some of these guys (and gals too I'm sure) actually believe the fantasy lives they paint and don't realise it could never be. They're not trying to be deceitful and hurtful, they just desparately need a reality check. Allow him the opportunity to walk away from his marriage based on it's own merit (or lack thereof) Let him live on his own for a little while and see how you both handle it. Unfortunately, my XMM and his W are so codependant in their misery, I don't thik it'll ever end. Too bad for them. *HUGS* Good luck!

~Blink.