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Hitting me now...
| Mon, 05-24-2010 - 12:34am |
It's just starting to hit me that ex-H is gone...moved out.
| Mon, 05-24-2010 - 12:34am |
It's just starting to hit me that ex-H is gone...moved out.
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Hello Mickey,
I have worked with kids who have been really hurt by parental conflict and abuse for many years - and you know what I have learned over and over again? A well mom (or primary guardian) = well children. That's why it is SO important that we learn to take care of ourselves and to heal ourselves. Your son is a reflection of the parenting you and your xH have done. May I suggest looking for a program for children that deals with separation? I am not sure where you live, but if you email me through my profile (if you are interested), I can assist you to finding a program - like Mom's House, Dad's House. This can really assist.
Anyway - I think you can feel yourself slipping. I wonder what actions you are going to take to prevent yourself from slipping again? You came close tonight to breaking NC, so what sorta plan can you put into place to ensure that you don't?
And let's take a look at this again: If I had talked to him ...
"I wouldn't get a reaction that would make me feel any better and I'd feel ten times worse, plus I'd feel like a fool for calling in the first place."
BINGO!
Hang in there, okay? Follow Jane's 48 hour rule. Do not act on your feelings for 48 hours. Allow the wave to wash over you. You won't get a second chance once you break NC. The wounds will be fresh again ...
TU.
LC/NC since April 14, 2010
I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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