The Holidays

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Registered: 12-07-2009
The Holidays
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Fri, 12-18-2009 - 3:55pm

I know for the newbies on this board, the holidays may be very difficult this year. I remember how painful that first Xmas out the A was for me. I put on a good front for my kids and only granddaughter at the time, but in my alone moments I felt

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 4:42pm

Well, I am 23 days NC and I feel as if I couldn't have picked a better time of

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Registered: 11-11-2008
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 6:13pm

Ah, the holidays... Well my A was long distance so I have a bit of relief from those kind of 'memories' but last year we did spent a weekend together in another city immediately after Thanksgiving... so I am fighting that memory (and of course it was a wonderful weekend!)...


Last Christmas H's mother and sister visited us and I think I am glad they were around during that fog... otherwise the holidays would have been horrible at home (no kids)... This holiday season I decided to go NC a day before my wedding anniversay and a week before Thanksgiving... I really didn't want to be fighting the emotions and confusion I've been going thru for so long.

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Registered: 01-15-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Fri, 12-18-2009 - 6:50pm
(((IDDY))) Another great idea post ! It got me to do some serious reflecting. Boy last year this time I was a total basket-case and literally surviving in a zombi-like state of existence. I had to go through the motion of celebrating Christmas with my family, my H's family and extended family, but all I could think about was xmm and I was MISERABLE !! I couldn't bring myself to do any shopping last year and ended up giving everybody cash and I have a reputation within my circle of being somewhat of a shopperhorlic (spelling?) and everyone knew something was up with me, but couldn't figure out what. This year I can't believe that I am actually already in a Christmassy mood and have been enjoying shopping for the past month - and I even bought myself some Christmas gifts <> ! :):) Anyhow Christmas is a big deal in our family - it's all about getting together with family for a big feast and exchanging presents. Also last year I avoided contact with friends and turned down all invitations to attend Christmas and New Year dance parties (Yes I did that just so I can steal some moments with xmm and be miserable after !) - but this year I will be attending EVERY SINGLE party I get invited to :):) I wish every single ladies here peace and strength from this holiday season and a fresh happy and joyful start to the New Year !! And here's a special holiday Cheer for you IDDY !
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 11:33am

Thanks go out to those of you who have already posted in on this thread. I'm bumping this back up so others will share their holiday plans

   ~Iddy~ 


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In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 1:41pm

Now that I seem to have my eyes open, I having been experiencing / receiving greater love from my friends and family.


I had to interrupted this thread just to say that this greater love you are experiencing and receiving is a direct result of you experiencing and putting out greater love for yourself and towards your family and friends.


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Registered: 10-04-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 10:25pm

As usual, great post Iddy!

NC since October 2, 2009.

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In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 7:44am

(((Gal)))


I can't tell you just how proud I am of you. I am smiling from ear to ear. I remember when you first came here...and look at you now. You are such an inspiration and I hope all the newbies are reading this thread. You and the other gals, "beautiful sunshine, gullable, newseason" are what it's all about when you do the work and beleive in yourselves. All of you are truly remarkable!


Hugs to you all,

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 11:59am

Thank you my withclarity.

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 12:09pm

((new-season))


It was a postivie hi-jack so it definitely belongs in this thread. ;-) Keep up the good work and positive outlook. It's contageous, you know? You had me smiling and that's a good thing cuz I'm by myself at work with nothing to really smile about until I get the heck out of here.


(((Hugs)))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 11-19-2009
In reply to: cl_iddy2009
Mon, 12-21-2009 - 12:40pm

I will be one month NC on Christmas, which is the best gift I could ever give myself! I'm looking forward to an awesome holiday and spending time with my H, his family, and my family. We do a bit of traveling and I'm looking forward to being busy, busy...especially keeping my mind busy, busy!

This year I won't be checking my phone or email. I won't be wondering if xAP will like my new clothes. I won't think about how xAP is spending his Christmas (okay, maybe I will but I won't be wishing I was with him).

As much as I'm looking forward to this Christmas, I'm REALLY looking forward to next Christmas when all of this is even further behind me. I look forward to a Christmas with 0.0 thoughts of xAP. Will that ever happen??

Happy Holidays to everyone and thanks for everything! I think I say this almost every time I post, but I am SO thankful for the people here!!