How are all my fellow D-Day peeps? Can you give us an update?

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Registered: 07-21-2009
How are all my fellow D-Day peeps? Can you give us an update?
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Fri, 02-11-2011 - 1:57pm

I was thinking about all of you while on vacation.

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Registered: 01-21-2009

Hi Heart,

I don't know if you were referringto recent D-day peeps or not. I had a D-day in june 2009 and would be happy to share my story if anyone is interested. I would be really interested in hearing others as well. I expect to be free for a good time tomorrow so hopefully people post. Thanks.

Amexdm

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Registered: 02-25-2010

Hi Heart

i have been meaning to give an update but things have been changing day by day.. the minute i get slightly confident that things will be ok they crash

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 05-06-2010

Welcome home Heart... I hope you had a great vacation!

My Dday was in Dec, right before

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AMex- I would like to hear more about your D-Day story.

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NC- My girl-

the minute i get slightly confident that things will be ok they crash

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FL-

Ok, wow.

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Registered: 02-25-2010

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 01-21-2009

H A,

My D-day was June 2009. The first 3 months were hell. My W called me and xap every name in the book. I stood there like a man and took it. I deserved it. I had cheated on her. I still kept in contact with ap for support as well if my M ended I would have been single right. At about the 4-5 month point I got tired of the verbal outburts. I told my wife I was sorry for my A. That I was wrong. That if she could not forgive me I would understand. But that I would not continue to be her punching bag day in and day out. It wasn't healthy for either of us. At about the 6 month spot she started to forgive. It was slow but ti finally came around. 20 months later we are back in a good place. I have initiated NC with AP. I never had PA after D-day. But yes as always it is hard to let go. I am moving on to a better place.

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Feeling,

It has been 20 months since my D-day. If yours was in December, you are fairly early in the process. When my Dad died, my T told me it takes most people 6 months to grieve over a loss. The first 4 months after D-day was hell for me. She beat me up nearly every day.

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