How do I gain control of myself?

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Registered: 09-28-2009
How do I gain control of myself?
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Mon, 09-28-2009 - 10:05pm

12 hours or more away and I'm strong, confident and self-assured... but one

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 10:41pm

How do you gain control of yourself?

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 10:59pm

Go look in the mirror. And look real hard at yourself. Do you see a woman who is cheating on herself, her husband, her family? Or do you see

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Registered: 09-28-2009
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 11:28pm

If

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Mon, 09-28-2009 - 11:55pm

Happy Birthday !!


Give yourself to best gift ever - end the affair before it destroys you ss.


Just tell him "no more", you cannot do this anymore, business only. And mean it.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 12:00am
ss, go to lynn's post " 12 steps".
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Registered: 04-17-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 7:08am

SS,


I am an senior HR professional and you need to hear this.

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Registered: 07-28-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 9:42am

Thanks Bandk!

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 11:15am

Hi SS, welcome to EAS. Congratulations on being determined to end the madness. You H deserves 100% of your attention.

What you need to do right now is what I call 'save you from yourself' so you can have all the chances on your side to break the addiction. You already know you're heavily addicted to this man.

You have a Blackberry. Did you know that you can block texts and PINS on your unit without calling the phone company or your IT person. Do it, now. He won't know that he's blocked, the messages just go out in the cyberspace graveyard.

On your personal Email you can easily create a filter so his emails go directly to the trash.

As for your work email... you're going to have to bury your Blackberry in the bottom of your purse and sit on your hands so that you don't look at work email off-hours. It's tough at first, but you can do it. And you will be surprised how good it feels to be off the roller coaster!!

PLEASE put yourself first. You are not his plaything to meet his needs. You are not his side-dish of cake. You are you and you belong to your husband, not to him. He needs to grow a conscience and not disturb your peace anymore.

big hugs,

trixie xo



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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 1:01pm

Thanks for you post Sara.


I'm always wondering what to tell EASers in similar situations when they have LC due to work.


It's a slippery slope and I empathize with them not wanting to rock the boat but I also see that sometimes they use it as an

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Registered: 04-07-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 1:04pm

Hey there Start -


Just wanted to say that you have received some really great advice from the ladies here (as expected :) )

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