How do I get rid of these thoughts?

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How do I get rid of these thoughts?
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Sat, 08-22-2009 - 9:50am

Hello everyone.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 12:02pm

Hi sweetie, sounds like xAP knew just how to 'get your goat'. My guess is that he was telling you how great in bed he is in the hopes of getting you to try out the merchandise. Totally inappropriate for someone in his position.

BTW, in my experience a lot of men who think they are so great in bed, aren't. If they really are that great in bed, they don't have the need to tell everyone. So it's way more likely that this JAM is totally boring in bed; don't torture yourself over it.

As for hearing about him going out as a couple, I think we've all been there, myself included :) He may be trying to provoke you into chasing him again. When he says things like that just end the conversation and walk away (don't feel like you're being rude, he's the one being rude). You don't have to listen to crap like that, even if he is your boss.

(((big hug)))

trixie xo



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Sat, 08-22-2009 - 12:04pm

P.S.


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Registered: 09-15-2006
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 1:54pm

Thanks Trixie and Clarity!

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 4:45pm

htgb,


I understand where you are. You built him up to be "all that" and he paid attention to you, made you feel wanted, loved and admired. This great guy that you falsely built up in your mind, is now going about his own life. You are not in it and now you feel jealous that you are not still a fixture in this "great guy's world". Make any sense :) ??? BTDT sweetie.

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 2:15pm

hi hope-


i am wishing you well this monday.

CL-Lovely Starr

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 4:32pm

Hi Hope,


I agree....the thoughts are part of the process of getting over exAP.

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Registered: 09-15-2006
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 8:44pm

LovelyStarr & Mickey,


Thanks so much for your posts.