how do I move forward, first post, so hurt and the pain....omg, can't stop the tears
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how do I move forward, first post, so hurt and the pain....omg, can't stop the tears
| Tue, 02-15-2011 - 12:44pm |
Hi,
I am new here, I have been searching online for a safe place to get support, where I won't be bashed as some other sites don't offer what looks like healthy support for someone going thru this. I am trying to learn quickly (so I can understand) the lingo...abbreviations. Is there a list of them somewhere?
Here goes my pathetic story. I have been in a three month A, my first. I am married (17yrs) , as he is and was not looking for an A, he was and although I knew that from his profile on this site I never paid too much attention to that. Yes, we met online, I was lonely as husband was out of town, we had recently a rough four months in our relationship.....very rough, lack of communication.

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Can you please help me with finding the Healing LIbrary? I cannot find that board to save my life.What is it listed under? Yesterday I was able t access a list of our posts here, it showed how many views, posts, etc.... I can't get that to show now. This is hard to manipulate through.... :(
I can't figure out how to make this board come up easy without having to go thru the main list....I can't even find a help link. I am so physically sick I can't get over how I feel so rejected.....even tho I ended this damned A, I am sick at the thought that he lied to me about the sexless M. Just sick and getting really annoyed....
HE just texted me!!!! HELP!!! I want to reply....so bad. SO bad to tell him I miss him , etc......I don't want him to think I am not thinking about him b/c I am.......that is the truth.......I hate this feeling. I would appreciate help getting to the Abbreviation link and the Healing Library....tx so much
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the link to the board (save it in your favorites)
http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/EAS/ct-p/iv-rlending
Each section has a title (General Discussions, Single, Married, Healing Library) To see views and other posts click on the title or scroll to the bottom of that section and click the view more.
Healing Library is near the bottom of the main page.
Hope this helps. Do NOT reply to him - even if you are thinking of him - Give yourself 24 or 48 hours....the feeling of needing to respond will pass....
On the main page right under where it says, "Your Community Leader is..." you will see a "JUMP TO" line with the headings of all of the sections on this site. Just click on "The Healing Library" and it will take you right there.
Have you even told MM that you want out of this A? If he keeps sending text messages it leaves me wonder if he is even aware that you are done. If you are going to keep reading them, then perhaps it's time to tell him that you are reinvesting back into your M and family and that this A is over. That's all you have to say. No need for some long, drawn out blah, blah, blah that only repeats everything the two of you already know.
You cannot start your healing until you've made a solid decision that you want this over with. Waiting to see if he's going to text you just so you can still get those warm fuzzies that he's thinking about you is not helping either of you to face up to the truth. You are prolonging the agony. You need to tell him it's over OR just block and walk. To continue posting on this board, your A status needs to be clarified soon.
((Hugs))
Holy immaculate conception Renewal,
:smileyvery-happy: I'm sorry I don't mean to offend anyone,
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