how do i stop it?

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Registered: 02-26-2004
how do i stop it?
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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 5:43pm
I've been in an A for about 9 months now, w/ my H's permission. The OM is quite controlling and possesive. Everytime I say I can't do this anymore, I go right back into doing it. I just have such a hard time walking away. The OM has got to where he doesn't believe me when I say its over. How do I get out of this and stay out? Got any advice.
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 7:37pm
Maybe your husband can have a chat with him and let him know its over for real.
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 7:51pm
I know how you feel. My H knew of my affair too. What got me was GUILT. Even tho H knew. I was still betraying him, and me both, & taking something from our marriage, 20+ years of love and devotion. XMM and I walked away from each other so many times I can't count them anymore, but after 2+ years at the affair, and nothing more out of it than occasional sex, alot of conversation and ego boosting. I said enough is enough. I still care for XMM, but I finally realized that I was fooling myself about him and his "need" for me. It was just that, "his need", not a life with me, not a realrelationship with me, just a "need". I'm still trying to get past this and it is so hard at times. But I feel I made the right decision when I decided it was time to finally go.


Good luck to you.

TCOM

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Registered: 02-26-2004
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 9:28pm
Thanks alot for the advice. Sometimes it feels like no one could possibly understand. Its nice knowing I'm not alone.