How do you handle "never"
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How do you handle "never"
| Thu, 04-14-2011 - 5:07pm |
Hi all
Having a huge few days and wallowing in stress- just bought a new house, sad to leave old home, nervous about the bigger mortgage, I'm currently traveling, got a new job .... You name it - I seem to be going through it.
Stress is a huge trigger for me- my brain yearns for those feelgoods and escapism. I recognize that but still hard to manage those foggy thoughts.
So.... The question I have for you today is how do you handle the concept of NEVER seeing or hearing from exAP again. I'm not talking about romantic intimate stuff, but the friendship that was there.
I'm the sort of gal that reads the last page of a book first. The 'mystery' of what happened to exAPs depression, his failing business etc does my head in some days. How do you handle never knowing what happened to him.
I know the answer is 'it just doesn't matter'. But how do I FEEL that and not just recite it.
Thanks all
Iggy
Having a huge few days and wallowing in stress- just bought a new house, sad to leave old home, nervous about the bigger mortgage, I'm currently traveling, got a new job .... You name it - I seem to be going through it.
Stress is a huge trigger for me- my brain yearns for those feelgoods and escapism. I recognize that but still hard to manage those foggy thoughts.
So.... The question I have for you today is how do you handle the concept of NEVER seeing or hearing from exAP again. I'm not talking about romantic intimate stuff, but the friendship that was there.
I'm the sort of gal that reads the last page of a book first. The 'mystery' of what happened to exAPs depression, his failing business etc does my head in some days. How do you handle never knowing what happened to him.
I know the answer is 'it just doesn't matter'. But how do I FEEL that and not just recite it.
Thanks all
Iggy

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OMG I frikkin love you guys!!! Honestly if I could crawl through cyber world and snog you all I would!!!
Honestly what a great bunch of responses. Id like to thank all of you personally for you support and guidance- it means more than I can ever express.
I think all of you have given me something to really absorb- like ALL of your posts hit home.
From the 'Honestly woman just suck it up! Recite 'It doesnt matter - because it bloody doesnt! Deal with it, Never is
(((Iggy)))
I don't know if you will read this until "your" Monday begins :), but waking up this rainy saturday morning and reading this post has made my day, rain or shine. This is the Iggy we all believe in, are rooting for, and has touched our hearts.
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Now see? This is what I would call progress.
Iggy,
Sorry I’m late chiming in here.
Lots of positive changes going on in your life. Congrats on the new house and new job! Your being sad about leaving the old house would likely trigger thoughts about all that you are leaving behind. Probably also another nail in the coffin of the past including the A. No doubt it would bring to mind some thoughts of finality and “never.”
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I too like a good mystery however, I’m not so sure that your explanation of your curiosity or liking a good mystery is why you are spinning on these thoughts about xAp’s. Specifically because you mention his depression and failing business.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
I could care less about exAp. If he suddenly died, I would feel awful for his family n young children but that's about it. I am so unaffected. I guess all my time out has me beyond fathoming Anything about him
Wishing you the best iggy
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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