how do you know when to end it
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how do you know when to end it
| Wed, 12-22-2004 - 11:06pm |
Hi all,
I am in the process of trying to decide once and for all if I should end things with my MM. I have been seeing him for a year and half now, and I just don't know if it is going anywhere or not. I am getting tired of being second in his life. Tired of the roller coaster ride. Tired of everything. But I still love him and don't want to give up the dream of being with him someday. How did any of you come to terms with ending things? How did you know it was time?
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciate. Thank you.
I am in the process of trying to decide once and for all if I should end things with my MM. I have been seeing him for a year and half now, and I just don't know if it is going anywhere or not. I am getting tired of being second in his life. Tired of the roller coaster ride. Tired of everything. But I still love him and don't want to give up the dream of being with him someday. How did any of you come to terms with ending things? How did you know it was time?
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciate. Thank you.

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That is very interesting that he knew so many things about you and your friend that no one told him. I believe in that sort of thing up to a point. It sounds like a very reasonable thing for him to say, find someone else and that will make him come back to you. I guess you need to figure out how much you believe him!
How can I talk to this guy!!
This guy could be full of crap, but then again, who knows, he may be right!
Thanks for your response Trish. I hope I can make the right decision for myself too.
I keep telling myself, I'll stick around for one more month and see what happens. The thing is, one month goes by and nothing changes and I think, well, I've waited this long, what's one more month. Then that month turns into two more, then three more and so on.
The more this goes on, the more bitter and resentful I get, which is not good to anyone.
My self esteem is in the toilet.
I just need to figure out how to get what I want. And how to be ok in the end if I don't get it.
LOL - I know I think the same thing. He has been right so many times that I really want to believe that he could be right for me too. He's a really nice guy and I e-mail him all the time when I am feeling down. He tells me I'm not a piece of crap for loving a MM, that MM loves me very much, that I am everything MM has ever wanted, to just be patient and it will all work out, etc.
The craziest thing is my 2nd friend who has a "normal" relationship with her boyfriend, he has told her to get out that it will never work, that he will never marry her, that he is a play boy and just stringing her along. Which of course is NOT what she wants to hear. But, she's beginning to think that maybe the psychic is right in her case too.
But, how do I walk away when I don't want to? How do I find someone else? You know all the questions we all ask. I've decided I want to walk, but I haven't told him yet. LOL
He has a website. Can I post it here or do you want me to send it to you privately?
~alone
That is interesting what he said about your friend too. Your friend thinks he might be right? Did your friend think that before or after talking to the phychic?
I guess you can post it here. I don't know why not!
I hope we both figure out the way to happiness!
In my case ending up with MM is what I want, so it's easy to listen to the psychic. In my friends case it's the opposite of what she wants to hear. It's been 8 months and she's just starting to accept that what he has told her might be right.
So far in my circle of friends and my friends, friends, he has correctly predicted a baby, an affair, a husband leaving, an engagement, a guy I know whos wife passed away a few years ago that he has talked with her and I'm not sure off hand what else. But, I've never heard anyone he has talked to not think he was real. Even my friend who doesn't like what he says can't deny that he knew all about her life from just telling him her name and birthday. I was on the other phone taking notes when she called him and normally you would say, right, yea, etc, but she didn't say anything, she just let him talk and at one point he even asked if she was still there. It's freaky, I've never believed that stuff before. I like to keep track of him and see if what he predicts really happens, but you're right you can't base it entirely on what he says. But it might help give you peace to know if you are wasting your time. For me it has helped me hang on when I get depressed about the whole MM situation. If nothing else it has helped give me a man's outlook without judging me.
His website is http://www.psychic-medium.com
~alone
Hiya Unhappy Sad,
Oh, they're just questions - You're welcome to answer here or consider them on your own or ignore them altogether lol. :)
Might help get to the bottom of whether or not you want to end the affair though, so good luck.
Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie
If anything, I can have some fun and chalk it up to entertainment. I am very curious. I think it would at least be fun!
Girlfriend #1, who did his website, told him I was seeing a MM and she wanted him to tell me that I should get out of it, etc. He tells me that as a man he wants to tell me to get out, but his "psychic" side says to be patient that it will all work out for MM and I in the end. Yet, it will take MM thinking he is going to lose me to get some balls and get out. That's why he says I need to end it with MM and find someone else, but to realize that MM won't go away. Friend #1 didn't know anything about the W and he did tell me about her (looks and all and I have met her so I knew he was right).
That was one reason I wanted to see what he said to other people, I wasn't ready to believe right at first. So girlfriend #2 and I made sure he knew nothing about her before hand and he still got everything (except her height, he said 5'6" and she is 5'1") LOL
It is a lot of fun and like I said he is a really nice guy. I e-mail him still and he talks to me (e-mails me) when I am sad (doesn't charge me for crying on his shoulder either). LOL
It might just help to talk to him and see if he thinks you should get out or hang in there. That way your heart has a second opinion.
~alone
That is very interesting that he described the W and everything and he was right.
Also that he was right about your second friend without knowing anything.
Did you call him or do it thru email?
I might try it and see what he says for giggles!
Hi,
I did the "45 minute" reading but it was more like over an hour. He didn't charge me more and I wish I had some questions ahead of time because after he talked and said what he knew then he asked me if I had anything specific to ask and I didn't have anything ready. So, what I'm saying is be sure you think about what you want to know ahead of time.
My e-mail is cmiloslavic@hotmail.com let me know how it goes if you decide to talk to him.
Whatever you decide, I hope you can be happy, since that is what we are all looking for.
~alone
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