how do you know when to end it
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how do you know when to end it
| Wed, 12-22-2004 - 11:06pm |
Hi all,
I am in the process of trying to decide once and for all if I should end things with my MM. I have been seeing him for a year and half now, and I just don't know if it is going anywhere or not. I am getting tired of being second in his life. Tired of the roller coaster ride. Tired of everything. But I still love him and don't want to give up the dream of being with him someday. How did any of you come to terms with ending things? How did you know it was time?
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciate. Thank you.
I am in the process of trying to decide once and for all if I should end things with my MM. I have been seeing him for a year and half now, and I just don't know if it is going anywhere or not. I am getting tired of being second in his life. Tired of the roller coaster ride. Tired of everything. But I still love him and don't want to give up the dream of being with him someday. How did any of you come to terms with ending things? How did you know it was time?
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciate. Thank you.

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Hi Unhappy,
This sounds exactly like me before my last letter to xOM ( where I broke it off ). I used to just let it lag on and on and on, knowing he would never change, each time getting more and more frustrated with the situation, but not wanting to let go.
I have broken up and got back with my xOM about 6 times, to mention the least, over 2 years. That is really pathetic dont u think??
I somehow made it to these boards last month..I am not too old here either, pretty new.. I was definitely looking for help though and subconsciously while browsing probably looked for a way out of the situation I had got myself into..and I do not regret it, infact its made me a whole new person, I feel stronger and good about myself.. and most importantly, I do not feel alone.
Just talking to others here, getting their full support as well as a good talking to when I need it :-) is enough.. during this phase we tend to wilt, and cave in and thats when we need the support most of all
So hang in there, and remember, you can still get that self esteem out of wherever you said its landed..I did and I feel great about myself.
Wish you the best in your decision
Trish
Good Morning,
You dont know if it will ever be right. But you just have to say enough is enough and brace yourself for the storm. When you walk away from someone you love so much it hurts like hell. But YOU DO GET THROUGH IT. It took me months and months and I have finally reached that point where I am happy and smiling again. MY AFFAIR LASTED 3.5 YEARS... TOO LONG. It is a process and if you do things the right way , cut off all types of contact and focus on the positive you will be ok. It is easier said than done. I had a couple of set backs but I just refused to give up on myself, Not to mention feeling cheap all the time. I feel at peace. I know you will to. Keep in touch with this board the people an here where great with me, I am sure they will be with you.
Good Luck
Ladybug
"How did you know it was time?"
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