How do you know you need a T?

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Registered: 11-20-2009
How do you know you need a T?
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Wed, 12-30-2009 - 10:23am
I have posted a few times, and have tried NC, and have tried friends. I still think about him most of the time, and I am driving myself crazy between thoughts and cyberstalking. How do you know when its time to talk to a therapist? Thanks for any insight.
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 10:52am

Sara,


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I think these are 3 pretty good reasons for making an appointment with a therapist. ;-)

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 12:26pm

I'm going to be bold and say a majority of women who were in affairs should see a therapist.

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Registered: 11-20-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 1:23pm
Thanks for your input. I have been having a hard time dealing with this, but lately have not been able to cry or show emotions (probably d/t medication). I am not a "basket case", like I
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Registered: 11-09-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 4:10pm

I agree w/ Victory in that MOST women coming out of an A need a T -- we're very emotional creatures and it's grieving over a major loss

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 5:26pm

BIG hugs to you.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 5:35pm

You bring up such a valid and valuable point.

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Registered: 11-09-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 7:22pm

Thanks, Victory :)

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Registered: 11-20-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 8:27pm
Thanks for your insight and supportive words. I never would have imagined when I sought an "old friend" out 4 months ago, that it would turn into it this and that I would be in this place. Why do I still want to talk to him, when I know it is bad for me? How could I have been so naive? I go through so many emotions..and know that NC is best..it is just so hard. How do you find a therapist? Were you just blunt with them about the A when you first started seeing them? I am so desperate for help out of this...but at the same time keep dragging myself back in. Who knew emotions could get you in so much turmoil??
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Registered: 09-29-2009
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 12:31am
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Edited 1/3/2010 7:58 pm ET by classy01
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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 12-31-2009 - 8:21am

My priest recommended my therapist.