How do you move on?
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How do you move on?
| Wed, 07-14-2004 - 12:35am |
I just delivered what I believe is...my lover's child. My husband was told several years ago by two different doctors that he could not reproduce the normal way. There was no sperm present in his semen. During my affair I became pregnant. I immediately told my husband everything. He was hurt....and wanted me to have an abortion...I couldn't. Finally, he accepted it and started to believe that maybe the child was his. He went to the doc to have his semen tested...and again...it contained no sperm. I'm convinced that this is my ex-lover's child. My husband does not want to have an DNA test....but I can't stop wondering and thinking....what if....and the future....telling my son that his real father is not my husband....I'm so worried about the future.....I still have unsettled feelings for my ex lover....I'm unsure that if he finds out that my son is his..that he will want to be in his life.....This would cause a lot of conflict within my marriage....I just don't know what to do....or how to feel. Or how to move on...and LIVE. My husband forgave me....and our marriage has been great.....but what is he going to do when he accepts the fact that this is not his biological son? sigh...I wish I wasn't in this position...but there was no way I could abort my child.

As for your lover, well, if you want any chance of making your marriage work, do not have any contact with him. Contact will just undermine any progress you are making as far as your marriage is concerned.
I would not want to be in your shoes and I do wish you all the best. Who knows, maybe your H is the father and that would be the best scenario for all involved.