How do you walk away
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| Mon, 03-14-2005 - 4:10pm |
Ok Im going to try to make this short, Ive been married for almost 12 years , we have 3 Kids, we have been having problems for about at little over a year. OM is and ex boyfriend. He has 3 kids and is single. We started A about 7 months ago. We have had many ups and down in that time but I love him .
2 weeks ago I ended relationship with OM after I told my H that if he was really unhappy he should leave ( he didn't) After about 2weeks of NC he sent me a e-mail just to say hi and that he missed me. I didn't reply. This past friday I send him a text just to see how he was doing ( he was having alot of baby mama drama before we ended) he said he was ok but that he would like to see me " just to catch up"
I agreed and one thing lead to another and we ended up having IC. It was wonderful and i realized how much I miss and love this man but then listening to him talk about all the stuff he is dealing with I decide that it would be better if we just stay away from each other he agreed but he was hurt.
To make a long story short the next day he text me. I texted him back. We are going to try to make it work again.
So my question is how do you REALLY walk away . I love this man but I think out relationship is only hurting him . I want to do whats right but I feel lost with out him .
Please help I don't want to loose him but I feel like I am being selfish ( I know I am or I wouldn't be in this A ) I just need some advise
Thanks for letting me babble
Ash

Ash,
I have no answer for you but I am hoping you get one. I wish I knew how to walk away, but my heart is in way over my head . I have tried several times to walk away I have even suggested a break, but he tells me it isnt what he wants....I will be watching I hope you get your answer....
Good Luck
Imagine
Ash
TOTAL NO CONTACT that is the only proven way.
This my ANNOY or Offend But, this guy is a bit on the manipulative side isn't he, with his just checking up stuff, that was B/S he contacted you with the intent of having sex with you, what ever you do be honest with yourself about his motivations and your own.
JMHO
Free
ash,
he wants sex, thats it, i hope u get angry
max
How do you really walk away, you ask?
With both feet.
Be honest with xMM and tell him that although the sex is great you're staying in your marriage and you're not interested in maintaining any further relationship of any sort with him because YOU are married, not single, therefore UNAVAILABLE.
End it with "have a nice life". No one last time horizontal mambo. Just a good-bye. As you've already begun to realize, there is a lot more to life than just good sex.....
Good luck.
cl-nre