How long before I can be myself again?

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Registered: 07-28-2003
How long before I can be myself again?
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Thu, 05-19-2005 - 5:04pm
The rationale side of me says if he is breaking up with me for his family then apparently I don't mean that much to him, therefore I should feel lucky that we broke up. Despite all the nice things he told me before.
However I know breaking up is never that easy, can somebody tell me how long normally it takes to be myself again?
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Registered: 11-17-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 5:47pm

I wish I could. I think it varies by person and how strong you feel about the OP. I still don't feel like 'myself' and it has been 15 months. I still look at my MM picture all the time and don't feel like me, I feel like a shell of a person. Although with other EMA I felt myself much more quickly.

A part of me thinks that the 'myself' I was during the EMA was not a good me and someone I wouldn't even want to know. So now I like myself.

If he is leaving you for his family he is a courageous, brave, repectable, honorable person and that is something you can feel good about. He can still have nice feelings about you and 'do the right thing' by his W and kids. It is harder do the good thing sometimes but I find I can look myself in the mirror, even if I am a bit unhappy.

JMHO

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 6:47pm
Thanks.... maybe that's what life is all about. You lose something and gain something. Happiness is something that needs to be worked on, and I should work with the one who wants to work with me. I thought it was xMM, but it was my DH all along.... I'm glad that it ended before it ruined everything I had that I didn't appreciate before.