How many times did you end the emr or initiate no contact before finally calling it quits?
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How many times did you end the emr or initiate no contact before finally calling it quits?
| Tue, 01-04-2011 - 12:44am |
I just wrote a response to someone on MASboard and as i typed the last line, an idea came to me to ask this question on this board. I am an ex-ow for years now. in fact my former emr ended 18 years ago.

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I ended for good on the third attempt. Almost three months ago.
The first two times were only half-hearted attempts by me, to end because I knew it was wrong and feeling guilty about it. But I could never go more than three weeks without contacting him and allowing myself to get sucked back into the mire of neediness for the ego stroking he provided.
This third time around, we actually had set a rendezvous date (we were LD) and a couple weeks before that date I just had this epiphany and knew he wasn't going to make me feel better. I knew I'd feel worse after our weekend together. That's when I just knew I was done. I sent him an email telling him I couldn't make the date--because I wanted to see what his reaction would be--but I
Ended the PA several times through out the 7+ year A, only to eventually go back to it.
Third time was the charm for me.
ok. so three seems to be the popular number. ok.
i want to tell you something. you give me an idea for a new post. i am going to ask it now. This site is enjoyable to be on though, you learn so much.
Iddy, I just had to tell you that your tag line is so right on and keeps me focused.
Nothing has ever been more true than your line.
It took me more times than I can even count.... I'm a slow learner :)