How should I do this?
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| Wed, 05-05-2004 - 5:02pm |
Me, I don't really want to return it but I also don't want to annoy DH. Its not like this "thing" is highly visible, but DH knows where it is and he has asked me a few times if I've thought about getting "rid" of it. I can't just throw the darned thing in the garbage so the only real way to get it out of my possession is to return it to OMM somehow. That brings up the logistics of HOW I get it to him. I can't see him, don't want to see him. I'd like to mail it - but do I mail it to his home? Regardless of the fact that his marriage is over, I don't think his W needs to receive a package at her home from me - even though it would obviously be addressed to OMM. Also, what do I do about a return address??? I don't want to put either my home or office address because if his W sees it, I don't want her to contact me or harass me or anything like that. I don't have a business card or work address for OMM. The best I can think of is to send it to his mother's place of business.
Which brings me to my next point: be honest, am I making much ado about nothing???? My T said I need to take this step for ME and for DH, and heck with HOW I do it. She thinks I'm creating this logistical nightmare to avoid returning it. She doesn't think I need to concern myself so much with what effect receiving this thing in the mail will have on him; there's nothing malicious about sending it to his home and I shouldn't worry about the consequences on his life.
I'm chasing my tail. Someone please help!!!!!!!!! Thanks! Love, Mo.


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SInce it is important to you to return this item, as well as your stated opinion that you think it is valuable to xOMM, I suggest you contact him in the following manner:
1. Set up a separate email account for the sole purpose of a response from him at hotmail.com
2. From this new account send an email to the last known email address you have for him or to him at his company.
3. Explain that you want to return this thing to him because you know it has value to him and you need an address away from his wife to ensure it returns to him directly.
4. If he responds within 30 days with an address, mail the thing to him.
5. If he doesn't respond within 30 days, stop opening the email account on hotmail and the account will be deactivated at the end of the next 30 days.
6. Either way, using a temporary email account for the sole purpose of returning the thing to him gives you an opportunity to keep all contacts above board and open to your husband, if need be.
Why can't you just throw it away? Cut it up, tear it up, burn it up
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