How should I end it

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Registered: 07-12-2004
How should I end it
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Wed, 09-29-2004 - 11:43am
Okay, I am finally ready to end my A. After realizing he is not going to ever leave W and kids and house for me. He always said that he didn't want to hurt his kids, which I admire, but If he choses to stay, then I can't be part of that equation. So my question is "Do I say it in an email? I am afraid that if I tell him in person, I wont be able to keep my hands off of him and say what I need to say. But I feel like if I say it in an email, it somehow doesn't feel right, after every thing we have been through. I am not even sure how to tell him. This man is everything I have ever wanted and we have been having an affair for almost a year. But I can't live this lie any more and I deserve better!!!

So can someone give me some advice on how to end it and what to say!!! Please!!!

sjnrr
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In reply to: sjnrr
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 1:31pm
Hiya sjnrr,

If email is your normal method of communication, I see no problem with using it as your final means of communication. It's not like our EMA's are above board or require the meet up face to face to break them off. Bonus, huh?

My email read:-

Dear (exOM),

Thanks for your email, however, I must politely decline.

We are doner than a done thing served well done with lashings of done on top.

We both know why so it's pointless going over old ground since it only delays the inevitable.

When there's nothing left to say, best say nothing.

Buh bye.

(Posie)

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Great topic for discussion, Sjnrr. I'd love to know what you put in yours.

Actually I'd love to know all our ending emails/texts/talks/discussions, etc. Did they help or make it worse? Which were more successful than others? Why did this ending work and not the others?

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Registered: 06-22-2004
In reply to: sjnrr
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 2:33pm


In response to your question how did I end it..

We ended via email.. All of the other times

didnt seem to work we always would put it off

till another day and the days became weeks.

Like you said we just tended to put off the

inevitable.

Yes there were many things left unsaid but I have

gotten over that over these weeks.

Also just wanted to say thanks for your post Posie.

I definately needed another helping of Done today

and the laughter reading your message gave me :)

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