How should I handle this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2003
How should I handle this?
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 3:09pm
Yesterday was my birthday and it was an important one. My XOM and I share an interest in another board and are often on there together. Something was mentioned about my birthday last week, so I know he probably saw that post.

Anyway, we still correspond once in awhile about unromantic related things. For example, last week I e-mailed asking when he was going to be visiting my H work for something he was scheduled for job related, just so I would have a heads up on the situation. He sent me a casual reply, as he always does. Things have been cool and friendly lately, that’s all.

Well, I don’t know why, but I thought for sure he would probably send me an e-mail or a private message on the other board wishing me a happy birthday. That never happened, and it really hurt my feelings for some reason. I still consider him a friend, and as a friend, I would have certainly acknowledged his B-day with a simple greeting.

What I need advise on is how to handle next week – St. Patrick’s Day. OM is Irish and I created an e-card for him way back in Jan or Feb scheduled to be delivered on March 17th. Unfortunately, I don’t have the confirmation number anymore, so I cannot edit or delete the card. I signed it something like, “To my favorite Irishman. Love, (me)”.

I probably would have sent the card to him anyway, just as a nice gesture for what I believe is an important day to him, but I would not have signed it “Love”.

After he receives the e-card, I believe he will send me an e-mail thanking me for it. Should I send an explanation that I created the card a long time ago and was unable to change the way I signed it. That I did not intend to make him uncomfortable by signing it “love” or let him think that I was trying to stir up a romantic relationship again. Or, should I just pretend to take the high-road and let it go as is with no explanation.

I will be so glad after next week is over. I am ready to begin NC again, but I don’t feel I can until all of this blows over.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:17pm
Personally, what I would do is sent a short and to the point email now. Something simple, tell him what you said in your post, you created it in Jan or Feb and have no way to cancel or delete it. This way he will know that it isn't something that you thought to send him in in light of what is happening.