How would you feel if MM found a new OW
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How would you feel if MM found a new OW
| Thu, 05-13-2004 - 6:07pm |
Today I have been obsessed with the thought of MM finding a new OW. Does anyone else have these thoughts? I get sick just at the thought of it. Please tell me I am not alone. Our A ended when he moved 1000 miles away. I know his needs and always think of him finding someone else. I hate these thoughts. I wonder if he ever thinks of me finding a new MM?

I expect GB to find another OW. I think he'll have someone within a year or two if he doesn't already. Right now and for the last couple of years (since the end of the affair and she found out about it in counseling) she is keeping a pretty tight rein on him. Well, she did before but he figured out how to lie his way around it. Now, she's a little wiser.
Even though he and his wife are in marriage counseling and were in individual counseling, he hasn't taken any of it to heart. His wife is working through a lot of issues and has grown tremendously as a person. He is playing with it to please her. He says his marriage is happy and that he's content. Yeah, he's content as long as he has a 'little' on the side.
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I never was jealous of xMM's wife--because i know her and i know what she is like. she is very, very different than me. she is very closed off, anti-social and stiff. xMM used to complain about this all the time. in short: she is a DRAG! she is 35 but looks 45. i am 40 but look 30. she is matronly, severe; where i am not. she is not fun, where i am a blast (if i say so myself). i live a very passionate life--tho, a very sad one, at the moment.
But when i thought about him finding another MW or OW to be with, that hurt a lot. I know that he will. He is a very sexual and passionate man and his wife isn't. But he believes in the institution of marriage and will never leave it. I am positive i was his first A--but know, that i have opened the door for him. For me, he opened the door for my understanding, that there is more out there for me and it's not an affair.
Clarice
I feel the same way when I think of him with OW. I want to puke. Our A was the first time for each and it was for the long haul until he moved. We tried the LDA but you know what 1000 miles can do to that. I just know he needs to have some one there for him, and he probably already has someone. I wish I could give you some suggestions to help you but I know coming to this board and reading all the great advice helps me. I dont feel so alone knowing someone else feels exactly the way I do. I try to take it one day at a time. But boy does it hurt. I am at the point where I can't even cry anymore. I miss him and probably always will. Oh how I hate this pain.
Take care, Madam