Humble Request

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Humble Request
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Sat, 12-25-2010 - 3:04am

I slept all day & am up late doing my Self-Healing Homework and ran across a STICKLER for me. Im trying to change my faulty beliefs but I happened upon one...that I (sadly) am having a REALLY TOUGH TIME...refuting.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010

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Registered: 11-18-2010
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 8:18am

I was feeling vulnerable and teary yesterday, and that video made me remember that that vulnerability was a beautiful thing. I tend to think of those episodes as something to fix as rapidly as possible. But seeing them as something to embrace, that numbing them limits future moments of joy and creativity is...unbelievably great. Thank you. I do think I lean toward being more of that "wholehearted" person she talks about, but it has been a learning process, definitely not a message given to me in childhood by my caretakers. We can learn it from the universe and other people if we are open to it. I believe have given my own children that message, though, that they are imperfect but fully worthy of love. And hardwired for adversity...another very valuable concept. Out of love we can treat our children as if they are so fragile.

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 9:46am

Yes, it's an entirely different way of looking at things, isn't it?

    

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 10:53am

I agree with empowerment that in your first post you wrote that your self esteem was increased because of how your BF treated you. This is very unhealthy. I ended a very bad M by having an A and I have been M a long time to my second H, but I can tell you that we have gone through a lot of my stuff and his because of how our relationship started. So have my children. I realized that I had issues within me which caused me to not only choose my first H who was abusive, but to have children and stay in a M. I was not healthy and even having an A as a way to gain strength to end a M wasn't healthy. I hope that you have done the hard work on yourself to determine why you have had two failed M and why you chose to have an A because take it from someone much further out than you, it's not about an individual outside of yourself.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 1:31pm

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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 2:04pm

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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 10-05-2008
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 10:37am

Hi

" Some would say that i fell from grace;but in reality i leaped! "

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