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| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 7:41am |
well, husband left the house on monday.
what is weird is that i feel numb anout it all and i dont have any feelings.
i know if it doesnt work out between us that i lost a goog thing. dh was great.
i just dont have any feelings for him. i have been battling with the A since february of this year. i gave everything for that not to end. i am tired of crying and feeling depressed.
i still feel lost. i dont know what to do.
thnaks for listening
ups

I just wanted to tell you that you aren't alone, I know what you are going thru. My H hasn't left yet but he is saying it is over. Hang in there and come here often for support, if you need to talk I am here for you.
Just curious if you are in IC because I do know from experience that it helps. As much as the support on this board is wonderful the face to face with a person that won't judge you also helps tremendously.
DAF
Sorry to here things have got so bad, Dafs is right about IC, your feelings are going to return with a vengence sooner or later and I would be a good idea to have someone prepared to help you who has had the time to get to know you first.
You will get through this.
Free
daf i have been following your post. i have not replied b/c i usually check from work and i dont want to reply from there. i know things have been really hard for you. hang in there. there has to be light at the end of the tunnel for both of us.
free, i started ic last week for one session. she told me to show him affection and love even if it was acting for now and that eventually it would come back. i tried doing that. but its hard when you dont feel. i dont know what stage i am in all i know is that i dont have any feelings inside anymore. i am tired of hurting. my next session is next week. i scheduled it then because that is the thursday before OM is getting married, the wedding is saturday.
i know i put a lot of energy into my relationship with OM. he made me happy. it hurts to realize that he was not really my friend and to hear what we did meant nothing really killed me.
im taking it minute by minute....but i will turn to you guys for help.
funny how in the end you are alone and no one really cares to listen.
thanks again
Hon we are listening but sometimes we all need help that our friends are just not equiped to provide thats were the C come in.
I think your feelings are all there your just burying them for now to protect yourself from the pain, but I also believe there going to come back full force sooner or later and your going to need to know how to cope and your IC can help with that.
The acting like your care approach has been proven to work but it takes time months and months often not days or weeks, it took time to get were your at today and it will take time to recover your life you cannot rush these things your dealing with complex human beings.
Hang in there
JMHO
Free
Hi UPS
I cant begin to tell you how sorry I am, I hope you can take this time now and concentrate on yourselfhealing. I know you have alot on your plate and for someone who is not in your shoes I feel a great amount of pain for you at this moment. Dont stear from us , you know we can help you get thru this. And yes there is light at the end of your tunnel. Maybe this separation is what you need in order to sort out your feelings. I wish you lots of luck and strength, hang in there, It will be ok. You know if you need me I am here for you.
Your Friend
Ladybug
Keep up the counseling, no matter how painful some of those sessions may get it is the only way to keep your sanity and start to deal with your feelings. I have to agree with Free your feelings are going to come back eventually. I was in your spot once, I thought xOM made me happy, I thought xOM was my friend and he even said he always would be there for me, but I have learned that my M and H are my life, my world and it is sad to say that it took all of this to make me realize that and to realize that I could lose everything. Sad to say but you are right in the end we are alone and no one really cares to listen, that is what is so great about the people on this board, they have either BTDT or are going thru it.
My thoughts are with you, I'm here for you.
DAF