Husband wants to visit counselor with me

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Husband wants to visit counselor with me
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Sun, 04-18-2004 - 8:40am
Ok, here goes.

My husband knows of the attraction between me and EXMM, but knows nothing of the actual affair that we had. I had been going to a counselor, to have someone to talk to.

I was a little late home from work yesterday and my husband freaked out.

He called my cell phone 6 times. He then left because he had weekend plans with the guys. I get home and my son asks me "Why was dad sh------ a brick?" I called my husband and he was furious, all sorts of things going thru his mind. After about 30 minutes of talking, he told me the only way for him to get thru this is to go to the counselor with me and have him tell my husband everything he knows. He said that if the counselor tells him he can't answer a certain question, then it is over. I was frantic, called my counselor and told him everything, he said that he can't promise me that he will answer all my husbands questions. I told him that he could answer all the questions my husband has ,except admitting to the affair. He can't promise me that. I am scared to death that the counselor is going to try to get me to confess to my husband, that I actually did have an affair.

I don't know what to do. This thing has gotten so far out of hand. I don't want my 20 years of marriage to end, I do love my husband, just got so caught up in the fantasy land of having another man attracted to me.

I know about the patient/doctor confidentiality. My counselor has to know, that he can tell my husband everything, but if my husband asks if I did indeed have sex with another man, my counselor has to say no, he does not have my permission to tell my husband this.Am I right or wrong????????????????????????????

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Registered: 04-13-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:10pm
Katie: I am sorry about your sister. Gosh, that is really so awful and sad. Must of have been terribly hard on you and your family. I am sure it is still hard. Can't imagine how I would feel if I lost one of my sisters.

Hearing these stories. How do you not become emotionally attached. Or is it just me?

I would love to write in a journal but too fearful that it would end up in the wrong hands. Cant chance it. It must be nice to put those thoughts down on paper. Maybe thats partly what I like about coming here.

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