I am just floored today with the story..
Of the woman who killed her boys on saturday. Please listen ladies. If you are married and having or had an affair, please get into therapy to find out why you would choose an affair over dealing with the problems in your marriage. If you say it is because your DH doesn't want to work on the marriage, well then you have your answer. But if he truly loves you, then he will! For the single ladies, please get out of these relationships before it gets worse. What you need to understand is that you have bought into a relationship that is not healthy. It can't be when the man you are involved with has a wife at home who he has vowed to spend the rest of his life with her. And what in the world makes a single gal here think that you are the exception to the rule? That somehow your relationship is different...that he just doesn't love his W anymore. Well if that can happen to her, what makes you think it can't happen to you? Is that the sort of marriage you really want?
No kidding - this is about having a healthy upstanding relationship and if you don't protect yourself, trust me, no one else will.
Participating in behavior that causes problems with your mental health will have long term effects if help isn't found. For a single gal, the best help you can give yourself is to get away from this MM. Don't even consider a friendship until you are completely OVER the emotional ties you have to him.
I wish you all the best.