Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. See the “Stages of Grief” in the Healing Library.
Each person is 100% responsible for their actions.
As the mucky dirty low lying smog lifts when we get out of the A, we begin to see the A for what is was and the part that each person played in it. It is not pretty and is like going into a room covered with dust. As you remove the dust, you find that it was covering up an ugly finish on what you thought was a beautiful piece of furniture.
(Two side notes: 1) I’m calling it A smog instead of A fog because smog is a waste byproduct where fog occurs in naturally as low clouds even though I agree that fog is a good analogy because it does hinder your vision more than smog.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
MHO, ignore the email. By not responding you are showing him your disinterest in continuing communication. Let him feel like a fool when you don't respond. Do not feel guilty for never saying "No Contact". If you respond, you show him you are still open for contact and he still gets to you. If you stay silent, then he gets the message loud and clear. And you are right - if you contact him, the hurt starts all over again.
No I would not respond. IMHO it is just game playing. He wants to feel good about himself like he is not the bad guy and wants you to tell him so. Do not engage!
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Hi CSN,
Anger is a normal part of the grieving process. See the “Stages of Grief” in the Healing Library.
Each person is 100% responsible for their actions.
As the mucky dirty low lying smog lifts when we get out of the A, we begin to see the A for what is was and the part that each person played in it. It is not pretty and is like going into a room covered with dust. As you remove the dust, you find that it was covering up an ugly finish on what you thought was a beautiful piece of furniture.
(Two side notes: 1) I’m calling it A smog instead of A fog because smog is a waste byproduct where fog occurs in naturally as low clouds even though I agree that fog is a good analogy because it does hinder your vision more than smog.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
MHO, ignore the email. By not responding you are showing him your disinterest in continuing communication. Let him feel like a fool when you don't respond. Do not feel guilty for never saying "No Contact". If you respond, you show him you are still open for contact and he still gets to you. If you stay silent, then he gets the message loud and clear. And you are right - if you contact him, the hurt starts all over again.
No I would not respond. IMHO it is just game playing. He wants to feel good about himself like he is not the bad guy and wants you to tell him so. Do not engage!
Stop for a moment and think,
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
Thank you, E1.