I am VERY proud of myself today!
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I am VERY proud of myself today!
| Fri, 09-17-2004 - 12:11pm |
Last night I did something I haven't done in a long time-I stood up for myself with my H. When we went to bed last night I got the usual "Are you in the mood?" question. Let's see I showered before bed, put on a great smelling lotion, and I was wearing a very sexy nightie-what-ya-think! I told him that I need more then a rub here and a rub there for me to get excited. He then told me it was MY FAULT that I acted like I was never in the mood. I told him nooo way was it MY FAULT. I explained to him I need to hear I'm sexy, that I'm pretty, that I smell good (hell why wear perfume if no one is going to notice), and that foreplay isn't a aobut hitting the three major spots for 5 minutes or less. That levers found out there were 2000 body parts he could find a few more to touch. (I said that while giggling so it helped soften the blow). Amazingly it HELPED! Granted only one of us saw fireworks that night (and it wasn't me), but at least I saw him trying and that made it amazing. Now maybe it's time to stand up for myself on other things. By the way. Thanks to everyone who has posted when I've written. It's meant a lot.

trying these past few weeks also to do the same
thing with H. Trying so hard to get some kind of
spark back to our M which isnt easy especially when
we have kids. Trying to be more open about what I
want from him. I guess it will take some time though
and he is willing to try.
Lost
Good for you both, it is all about having the courage to communicate what you need and not to accept less from your husband/wife.
In the end you and your husband are going to be happier that you started talking honestly about these things.
Keep up the good work.
Free