I appreciate all of you.

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Registered: 08-15-2009
I appreciate all of you.
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Sat, 11-21-2009 - 4:14pm

I am going through NC now after almost 4 years of knowing ex-MM, and 3 years in the A....most of you probably already know this.


Throughout my experience in the A, I've come to boards for support/help/guidance and THIS board has given me the greatest support/help/guidance than any other.

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Sat, 11-21-2009 - 5:55pm

Hi Mickey, I've no advice just a hug and I wish you well towards your recovery. Ending my A is the hardest thing I have ever gone through and at my grand old age (46!!) I've been through a few tough things. My A was 3 years too (known each other for 4)

There is light at the end of the tunnel I try to distract myself with anything, music, tv, brushing my teeth whatever ... when the thoughts come. I now do a lot of exercise and my body looks ok which has helped with my inner confidence. It took a huge effort to get myself out of bed somedays though, I could have stayed hidden under the duvet forever. But there is a world out there - so many cliches in A land but fake it till you make it has got me through some tough spots.

You are in good company here - endings is a long process isn't it? Its weird I thought the A would end and that would be it but the aftermath is unbelievable, and I am very thankful too I found this board.

Hugs

Roxy

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Sat, 11-21-2009 - 9:23pm

I agree with this very thoughtful post. It is funny though....when I first came back here after many failed attempts of NC....I felt judged and criticized. I felt like people were to hard on me and just didn't understand. I now

 

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Sat, 11-21-2009 - 11:39pm

Hi Roxy,


This experience has been one of the toughest I've had to deal with.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 2:54pm

It's impossible to see that you have anything to offer up to your husband and or marriage right now.


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Registered: 10-04-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 10:54pm

Mickey -


When I first started posting here, one of my concerns/questions was how to even begin rebuilding my marriage (if that was possible).

NC since October 2, 2009.

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 11:49pm

To Clarity & Gal,


Thank you both.