I broke NC but he hasnt called back

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Registered: 01-06-2005
I broke NC but he hasnt called back
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 3:55pm
This is so confusing. OM has been on biz trip for 2 weeks. We never discussed that we were going to try NC, and when he was away he did call once after a brieft IM chat. it felt so good to talk to him. So he's been back in town (but didnt show at work) for the last three days and I have been trying so hard to not call. But then I did today and its been hours and he hasnt called back.....I would think this is a good thing, to help with the NC. A way to help end the EA. but I feel crushed like a highschool kid that he hasn't called me. I get butterflies and jump each time the phone rings, and feel like crying when its not him. Does this make any sense?
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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 4:27pm

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There has been contact by both of you (NC?) and...you seem to have contact expectations...are you ending the affair?

Post was kind of confusing to me, sorry.
Lizzie

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 9:13am
Yes, we are trying to end the EA. He believes that NC (especially since we work together) is taking it to the extreme. That we should be able to be colleagues exactly how we were before the EA started (it only lasted a month). I think that NC is the only way I will get over it. But I am so hypocritcal because I am the one who keeps breaking the NC. Any advice on how to stick with it?
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Tue, 02-08-2005 - 3:51am

Just stick to your guns. I mean its easier said than done, but this whole feeling like crying when someone else calls, sounds like you are way too deep and no where near being able to get over it.

What do you really want. I agree it doesn't sound like you want to end it at all. What would talking to him right now solve. He won't call back. And if he does what do you expect to do, make small talk. Chit chat about his trip. You aren't his buddy, you are his mistake, his regret, his broken vow and in his way, so take some time for you.
Good luck