I cannot believe this guy!

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Registered: 05-16-2005
I cannot believe this guy!
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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:28pm

Yesterday I get a text message from exMM saying how he has so much more to say, and if I know him I know the truth, and he's so sorry. For some of you not familiar with my story (although, haven't we all lived it) I posted under the Sinlge OW/OM section under the title "New Here (sorry, long)."

Anyway, if you read it you'll see that exMM called me to end it saying "I called to say goodbye. Sorry". I'm sure his W was standing over him when he did it. Anyway, of course that goodbye just floored me and kicked me in the stomach. Then yesterday he has the absolute nerve to text me a "better" more "sensitive" message? What the hell is wrong with this man?! I just want to scream! It's like he just had to sneak back in there again just to make sure that I know "the truth." Well, F YOU! I texted him back saying "please leave me alone." That was it. It was the single most satisfying thing I have ever done! When he cut me out of his life AGAIN I felt like he had taken the last bit of self respect I had away from me. I was ashamed because I could never say no to this man, and now that I did, I feel not good, but at least better. It was just a small thing, but I feel a little more empowered that I did it.

I just hope I feel more angry than sad until I don't feel anything at all. Anyway, thanks for letting me get out my little rant.

tinygrrl

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:28pm
You did good! And think about it- you deserve better, and shouldn't settle for this man who has someone else, anyway. Let him either work on his marriage or wallow in his misery. But don't let him back into your life- you are stronger and will find someone who has the guts and ability to give you his all.
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 10:34pm

Tiny

We walk before we run, you took a first step in telling him to leave you alone, WELL DONE.

When were learning to walk we sometimes stumble and fall and thats OK just so long as we get up again.

If you read enough of these posts your going to realize that "most" of these cheating married men are COWARDS at heart, there the ones with no self respect no honor nothing that you would really want to be married to if you were to get them. >(please note the word most because there are some exceptions to this rule)<

Time to reclaim your dignity.

JMHO

Free

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Registered: 05-16-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:05am

Lea and Free,
Thank you for your words of support. Reading your posts has made me feel more empowered and less alone.

Thank everyone in this community for being so open and sharing!

tinygrrl

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:06am

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Why is this I wonder!!! It does seem to be true. My XMM is most definately a coward! I knew that even before I started an A with him. But looking back, my XH was a bigtime coward as well. I completely ruled him and his every move. I was a very bad wife to him, and he would still kiss the ground I walked on. Had no self respect and I took advantage of him. (I'm not proud of that, by the way!) Finally he did find an OW and he fell in love with her. I can't say that I blame him. (Though I did at the time.) They are married now and she seems to be very good to him, but he still acts cowardly toward her. Makes me wonder if he'll ever cheat on her. My XH, OW and I all get along very well by the way. I'm glad they are happy together, and I've learned a LOT from that experience!!! (I'm a better person now!!)

But yes, I agree that most MM are cowards!!!

Pal

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 9:22pm
And I thought it was only my xMM being a coward. Maybe that's why they have A's instead of taking the hard route and either get out or fix their M. I was very much ready to do whatever it takes to be with him. Now that I know that I'm much stronger than him, I know as well that I can get over him and get back on my life. It's amazing that posting comments on this board is so therapeutical!