I cannot believe it
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| Sun, 12-27-2009 - 7:44pm |
Hi my fellow enders - to all who's holding out the hope, secretly fantasizing and dreaming of xAP, breaking NC and so on and so forth - you're gonna love it.
I ended a year long affair 5 months ago because of inability of xAP to choose between me and wife. (I was married, but ready to get a divorce and be with him).
He was going back and forth this whole time. He obviously struggled. He would leave me alone for awhile, then would come back over and over again. We were coworkers, so we were in LC, but I managed to keep it business like only and made it absolutely clear for him I am not going back to what we've had.
Five months later, he finally came clean. Said he can't live without me, and it took him a long time to take a hard look at his life, and he will do whatever it takes to be with me, because he loves me and he can't stay like that till the end of his life.
You think it's a happy ending? Keep reading:)
Fool as I am, I trusted him completely - after all, he had 5 months to think! - and pressed full ahead - started divorce and splitting up finances and the whole thing. And guess what - two weeks later, xAP BACKED OFF.
I cannot believe what a fool I was to actually believe him. I was doing so good without him for FIVE MONTHS, and here I am again. Please learn from my mistake and never ever open yourself up to any of this - stay strong, stay true to yourself, believe in yourself and that you deserve better.
Love to all and Happy Holidays,
Gone

Sorry for your misfortunte, but it is better this way...in the end, would you want to be with a man that cheated on his wife and left her?
NC since Dec. 9th 2009
No Contact = No N
Wow,
what a douchebag. You shouldnt feel like a fool. Probably most of us on here would have done the same. I mean, 5 months and then he actually put some action behind his words, I would have believed him.
I'm sorry this happened. At least you know for sure that you did all you could in this situation and
so sorry you had to go thru this...really I am, but if you marry a man that cheats on his wife, you will be married to a man that cheats on his wife....that quote is courtesy of pause for thought...a male poster whom we really like around here. i know this hurts and i am sorry, good luck moving along. the good part is he is less likely to come back around....unless he is just plain amazingly bold to think you would fall for it-AGAIN.
U did five months...thats a long time, you can get there again, just this time, no turning back...
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