I desperately need advice PLEASE HELP!!!
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I desperately need advice PLEASE HELP!!!
| Sun, 04-11-2004 - 8:20pm |
6 months ago this good looking guy landed a job at my company and I was attracted to him the minute my co workers introduced him to me, but he never knew that I liked him. When we would see eachother he would be flirtatious and I never would give him the time of day for some reason, Then I found out he was married. After that I really became distant from him and every time he would come up to the unit I would not even say hello to him, Until I became friends with one of his employees and I told her that I liked him and that I wanted to Freak him, She went back and told him and he called me. Usually I would have never messed with a married man but I am married too and lately I have not felt any desire to have sex with my husband, I wanted to have an affair but not just with anyone. After the guy found out I wanted to have sex with him he called me on the floor I was working and he asked me if we could go somewhere else because I intially invited him to my house while my husband worked nights. The 1st time he was supposed to come over he didn't. Then the 2nd time I asked him to come over he did and we had casual sex. He made me feel so good that I almost told him I loved him. He did things to me in the bed that my own husband would not have done and we have been married for 5 years. After that I asked him not to come around me at work because I would be flirtatious but I remained professional. The next thing you know we would be in a little room kissing and feeling on eachother at work. He would come up all the time to visit me at work but all of a sudden there was a decrease in that. Every time he was supposed to come over he had to cancel, 1 being that it was his daughter's birthday and then his mother was very sick. I understood because that is his mother and his daugther and they are priority over me OF COURSE! One day I asked him to come up and I noticed his eyes had looked red as if he had been crying and he said he was and i asked him why and he said his mother was dying and i gave him a hug and told him he would be alright and i am glad that he confided in me. Now when I call to check up on him he would not answer his phone nor return my phone calls and I don't know why. I want to say that he only wanted me for a one night stand but he kept saying that he did not want it to be a one night stand especially if he kept coming up to my unit and visiting me and kissing on me. Finally we were supposed to met up one day and he did not show up did not call nor return my calls, Maybe I thought that his mother had passed away and he was too distraught to call me and let me know. I am so in love with him but now I feel that he is intentionally trying to force me to back away from him. He is a very straight forward guy he will tell you if he is upset or if he wants to be left alone but he did not give me any indication that he wants to end our affair. Maybe he is going through some personal problems with his mother being sick. Whatever it is i need some help, I am so confused. Do you think he still likes me?

This is a board that supports people wanting to END AFFAIRS you may want to try the affairs support board.
I would suggest that you get into individual counceling to find out what is going on in you that you have lost interest in your husband and would be so bold as to bring another man into your marriage bed.
As for the MM maybe his interest does not go farther then what he got from you, if so when his lust gets up and ready to go he may be back.
This board os for ENDING your affair, no continuing it.....
If you want to continue your desparate lifestyle of lies and deceptions, "My Affair Board" is your next stop.
If you want to live above-board without lying to your husband, feel free to post here for support while ending your affair....
cl-nre