I did it and you can too! Really.

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I did it and you can too! Really.
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Sun, 07-18-2004 - 2:32pm
Hi everyone! Anyone remember me? Just a quick check in to let you know how I'm doing and to offer encouragement to new fellow sufferers. I celebrated one year of NC on June 25, and I'm doing really well. My life has gone forward, I've left my MM behind and all's well with the world. I just glanced quickly at all your names and noticed only a couple of familiar ones. It's amazing how new people just continue to keep coming here and pouring out their hearts and telling their heartbreaking tales. It's amazing to me how many of us make the mistake of falling into the affair trap, but I know how easy it is to do.

I was involved with a married man (my boss no less) during all of 2002 and part of 2003. It took me a whole year to get over the affair, and I know I could not have done it without this group. To those of you have have just begun the journey of realizing that your affair is killing you and you have to end it, you've come to the right place. The women (and men) here are extremely kind, warm and supportive. They've all been where you are and they all help each other through the worst times they've known. Stay here and you will regain your freedom, respect and love of life.

For those of you who are single, only when you leave your married partner will you be able to find true love. I know that sounds corny but sometimes when you're involved with a married person you can't possibly imagine that you could love anyone else. Believe me I've been there. I thought MM and I were meant to be together, we fit together so well, he loved me so much, so deeply, so beautifully. I'm sure you all know what I mean. But he was married so it was all illusion and sham. I recently met a wonderful man. He's smart, kind, funny, sexy, handsome and he loves me. Best of all: he's single! Finally! I always prayed it would happen and now it has, and it's really a wow.

I just wanted to offer some encouragement to those of you who are mired in your pain: it does end, and you can be happy again. But you've got to leave the shackles of your impossible affair behind. You can do it. I did it, and it hurt like hell. There were many times when I thought I would die. My heart was mangled beyond repair. And now? Now I'm in love with the most wonderful man I've ever known and I think our marriage will be better because of what I went through and what I learned from the married people here.

To all those who remember me and who helped me through many a distraught weekend (especially Chris and noregretsever) thank you so much. You're in my thoughts and my prayers.

Laura

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:39pm

Some work out, some don't.


There's more SINGLE fish in the sea waiting to be caught........


Hope you catch a keeper next time.......


cl-nre

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 8:44pm

Whether it worked or not, you're still affair free! You're on the path to a healthy relationship. If this single guy wasn't trustworthy, the next one might be!


Remember, you are a strong woman and a force to be reckoned with!

~Chris~<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />


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