I did it!!! Complete BLOCK

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I did it!!! Complete BLOCK
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:18pm

I had deleted JAM from inter-office IM, not realizing HE could still IM me.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:25pm
NSN,

Huge step! You have freed yourself more than you think. No more worrying about pop-up blah, blah, blahs, or "Hey!" <-----always hated that. What ever happen to saying "Hello" to one another. (talking about RL here)

Anyway, you are on YOUR WAY to being able to mentally block him whenever thoughts of JAM pop into your head too. When they do, imagine a switch you can flip that turns them off. Then think about your H, your family, a nice hot soak in the tub....anything to take you away from those habitual brain pop-ups. :-) Eventually you will retrain your brain.

(((Hugs)))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-19-2010
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:26pm
NSN4....
"omg, I'm actually doing this!!" YES YOU ARE!!

This is a huge step, really. And I am so proud of you doing it NOW. Keep that held high, hold onto these feelings of power and keep moving forward. And when you start to feel weak (and form everything I have seen while here I am sorry to tell you that you will) come here, post, and let us help you get you through it.

You have so much to gain! Keep it up!

Sending calming and caring vibes your way again today. Proud of you!
peace&light
Foggy
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:28pm

Iddy - thank you!

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:30pm

foggy - thank you!

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:39pm

YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!

Complete Block is YOUR TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR HAPPINESS!!!!!!

GREAT JOB!!!!!!!!!!

Keep on doing these seemingly "little" pieces of getting YOU back.....and I swear.....before you know it, you'll have HUGE CHUNKS of you BACK.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 3:45pm
YIPPPEEEE.

A REALLY important thing to remember ... is that it gets EASIER the farther out you are. THE EARLIEST days are the very worst. The withdrawl. The newness. The wondering if you can do it. The self-doubt. The crazy talk. THEREFORE every single minute of early NC is to be embraced and celebrated. DO NOT undermine the day 2, 3, 4 ,5 pains. Seems to PEAK at about 3 weeks, and THEN ... you will feel a whole NEW level of satisfaction & renewed commitment to just keep moving forward.

Much care,

Tu.
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 4:10pm

Yes, NSN!!! YOU ARE ACTUALLY DOING THIS!!

You know what this is called? It's called Empowerment. Regaining self-dignity and self-control. It's stepping out of the muck. It's

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 5:59pm

Such great news and such an important step. I too worked with my xap in the early days of ending and had to maintain LC. It was terrible. I always had a cloud looming overhead- when would he email? How would it make me feel. I was literally living in fear and it was tearing me a part. I am so proud that you've taken the steps to protect YOU. Keep on trucking girl!

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 6:09pm
I can only reiterate everything that has been said here. Yes it's tough but omg is it worth it. It's like shaking off a rain cloud and stepping into the sun

Much love xx

Iggy x
You are what you consistently do
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 7:06pm

I am SO glad I did this before we went to our office monthly /birthdays/anniversary social.

I know this is stupid, but I felt that if he didn't show, he was definitely avoiding me, but

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