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I did something really stupid! Help
| Tue, 07-06-2004 - 2:20pm |
Hello Sisters,
I need some help here. I am 40 years old, have been dating a MM for 9 months. I just broke it off with him last week. He told me he knew how hard our relationship has been on me, (it really has). I have not been proud of myself over this. He knows I have fallen in love with him. He told me last Christmas...."just let me get through the holidays", and his divorce will be delt with. Well, it's 7 months later. He still lives at home with W and daughters 12 and 17. We have only talked twice since I told him, I needed to "step away". He was very sweet about it, and told me I have made him feel better than anyone ever has, and he cares so very much for me but, ultimately he just wants me to be happy, and he knew he should have steped away a long time ago, but he had been without passion in his life for so long, that he just could'nt do it. It was the best sex I have ever had! Damn I miss that! He held me and touched me and took his time with me. We would e-mail spicy thoughts. So....last night after too many drinks, I called his cell and left a message that I wanted to #### him. That is all I said. (the last time I left that message, he loved it) He did not take the call, and has not e-mailed me today. I feel like an idiot. I was going to e-mail him today and tell him I know I should not have done that, but if he still does not respond I will feel even worse. This is so painful. I can't get him out of my head. I feel like I have been hit by a bus. Any suggestions?..PJ
I need some help here. I am 40 years old, have been dating a MM for 9 months. I just broke it off with him last week. He told me he knew how hard our relationship has been on me, (it really has). I have not been proud of myself over this. He knows I have fallen in love with him. He told me last Christmas...."just let me get through the holidays", and his divorce will be delt with. Well, it's 7 months later. He still lives at home with W and daughters 12 and 17. We have only talked twice since I told him, I needed to "step away". He was very sweet about it, and told me I have made him feel better than anyone ever has, and he cares so very much for me but, ultimately he just wants me to be happy, and he knew he should have steped away a long time ago, but he had been without passion in his life for so long, that he just could'nt do it. It was the best sex I have ever had! Damn I miss that! He held me and touched me and took his time with me. We would e-mail spicy thoughts. So....last night after too many drinks, I called his cell and left a message that I wanted to #### him. That is all I said. (the last time I left that message, he loved it) He did not take the call, and has not e-mailed me today. I feel like an idiot. I was going to e-mail him today and tell him I know I should not have done that, but if he still does not respond I will feel even worse. This is so painful. I can't get him out of my head. I feel like I have been hit by a bus. Any suggestions?..PJ

I think if you try to follow up with an e-mail or phone call you will just make things worse and risk pushing him even further away. If he doesn't respond, then that will just force you into NC and ending the A, which may be better for you anyway. And, if you do e-mail him again, and he doesn't respond again, like you said, you will only feel worse. Why risk doing that to yourself?
In my opinion, I think you should do nothing, and contemplate moving on and ending the A.
:)
Circe