I did something VERY mean

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2003
I did something VERY mean
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Mon, 08-02-2004 - 1:57am
I am in the midst of ending a 2.5 year affair.....it has never been easy, "I can't leave or I won't see my boys...." and I have tried to end it 1,000 times. She has been very suspicious and he constantly threatens to leave. Things are not happy on the homestead AT ALL.

SO KNOWING things are fractured between the 2 of them....I in desperation did something that is killing me with guilt.

I started calling their house with *67...so it would say blocked call and then when she answers I just hang up. I did it a few times and my intentions were to put doubts into her head for sure. I feel so bad for doing this that I actually packed my car and moved 3 states away. If you start doing sneaky things then hasn't it hit rock bottom?

God I am sorry.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 8:55am
Is your intention to get her H to leave her? Is this what she wants? If she wants to end her marriage, she has to do that on her own, when she is ready, and in her own time. You cannot force this, or else you run the risk of doing more harm than good.

You say you have moved 3 states away, why did you feel it necessary to do this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-07-2004
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 10:17am
We all do stupid things at times. But be careful she can hit *57 and trace your call. All *67 does is hide your number from call ID.
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Registered: 05-12-2003
Mon, 08-02-2004 - 11:08am
I have been in A with MM, I am Single, for 2.5 years. He WANTS to leave but wavers back and forth because of children and economics and stigma of abandoning his family...there are 3 sets of Grandparents, Uncles, Aunts that are all VERY involved. Bottom line me staying with him ENABLES him to have both worlds and I always come in last place. So emotionally I couldn't handle anymore wavering. When I made the phone calls it was to make sure she KNEW something was going on, she's already suspicious. I was hoping she would get fed up and leave him...which HE says is the only way a divorcewill happen. He has asked her to get out but she threatens to use the kids against him. He is also VERY scared of change and just NOT going to leave.

The only way we can stay away from each other is if one of us isn't around. SO I moved far, far away until one of us changes. I don't want to be someones LAST place even though we really do love each other.